[M.D. Holloway]

In my experience with women (and it is vast...VAST!), they know they have a weight issue you will never have to tell them. The real question comes in "why are so many women over weight when they are aware of it?"

Call it the post-divorce scenario, most women who get divorced end up shedding weight mostly because they are now on the market, women who are new to a relationship will keep the weight off as well in order to keep the guy interested, and then there are those married women who keep the weight off because they have an internal discipline, a network of friends committed to appearance, or because they are insecure about how they look (well that's pretty much all of them). The married women who gain weight and keep it on do so for a simple reason...because they can.

Your wife is keenly aware that you love her unconditionally. She could push 200lbs and you would still rub up against her in the early AM. She is not worried.

Get her to worry, tell her to pull off the feed bag, step away from the crunchy clusters and start chewing a carrot or your gonna find a fun-size replacement quicker than she can scoff down that cinnamon bun.

Of course she won't do it because of what you saidt, but she will spend 1000's of calories chasing your ass around the yard to hit you over the head with a box of Ding Dongs.

Or maybe you could just be honest and tell her that she means the world to you, that you want to be able to walk down a Florida beach hand in hand when you guys are in your 90s and that you both have to begin taking better care of each other and your willing to help in anyway possible including planning and cooking healthy meals that are reduced in volume, buying smart snacks and not the carbo-killers, talk and take walks with her every night to get the blood flowing and during these walks you would like to plan the next vacation. Hold her and tell her you love her more today then you did yesterday and the day before that and tomorrow maybe even more.

just an idea...