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Originally Posted by Instrument 41
I raised 2 and have 2 of my own. All boys. I have heard of very harmonious situations, but that wasn't. Most of the time when there were issues it was that my wife didn't agree with the level of expectations and discipline I'd require of her 2boys. It was Ok that I was firm with my 2 but not hers. This also caused some major tension between she and I but at least the tension and its roots were recognized.Finally after a few year years she realized she and I were reaping what she had planted years earlier. By that time it was too late and the youngest has become a real burden to her and a major pain in my ass. The key is to make sure that the parents are on the same page.
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Felt like I wrote this myself...I'm in exactly the same boat--just had a fun fight about it again last night. Wife and I have been married 6 years now; boys' dad is in the picture about once a year, so I've done most of the "raising" of them since they were 12 and 9. Oldest is lazy as hell, just graduated and has no plans/goals; youngest has serious behavioral issues, which wife does nothing to address, and I'm an ass when I expect some level of discipline, though she's quick to jump on my kids for the slightest infraction. I've all but given up, and instead focus on making sure my own kids continue on the path they're on (a good one).