[Craig T]

Originally Posted by Craig T

I'm very sorry Lee. I went through this as well. Just remember, life is very short...Too short to spend any more time than necessary with somebody who doesn't appreciate and love you for who you are, or visa versa.

My first wife said something similar to me me after 7 years of marriage. For the next three years I gave up my soul giving her control and trying to make her happy. It still wasn't enough and we divorced at 10 years. In hind sight, I wish I'd left the day she started complaining, just tore it off quickly like a hard stuck bandage no matter how hard it hurt. Three years of life wasted.

Lee, in addition to my advice above...STAY SINGLE FOR AT LEAST A YEAR! Dedicate your time to your daughter. A daughter's relationship with a man as an adult is predicated on the relationship with her father as an adolescent....make her feel like your priority.

After 20 years or marriage, living alone is very difficult. Even if you and your wife were not getting along, it's still far different from solitude. You must adjust to being happy alone before you can find a maintain a healthy relationship.

Others have mentioned the lack of good honest single middle aged men. Some lonely lady will snap you up quickly looking to co-habitate. It happened to me. The rebound gold digger did far more damage to the relationship with my daughter (only child) than the divorce did. When I got rid of the rebound girl, I had to start the adjustment of being alone all over again. When you're comfortable and confident being a single father, that's when the right woman will come along.