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Originally Posted by notfarnow

I'm less and less inclined to think it's as simple as that. I bet we all have a friend who is a really good guy who has raped/assaulted someone and just doesn't see it that way.

I'm not sure that makes it any less wrong. I'm sure the 17yo ricer weaving in and out of traffic at 80 in a 35mph zone doesn't think he's actually doing anything wrong. Maybe not a good example, but really, not that far off.

Even in those situations I cited above,2 of the women didn't make a stink about it because it was someone they knew, and they felt like they wouldn't be believed and they would be criticized. The one who DID make a fuss and pursued it had a terrible time, lost many friends and ended up dropping out of university.

That really sucks for all 3, but it doesn't mean it didn't happen.