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Originally Posted by sc_rufctr
Expect the best but plan for the worst.
My ex did all manner of things I never expected during our divorce. Long and complicated but basically I didn't recognize the person she became.
It was like an Alien had swapped out her brain.
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This happened both times to me.
Wife #1 ran off with another guy. She fought the divorce! All she did was run up the legal bills. - Aside, she ran off with another married man. The two of them "thought" they could push his wife out of the house and she would become the new mommy.
Wife #2 and I were unhappy and stressed out. She had a serious drinking problem that she semi-admitted, but wouldn't treat. The decision to end it was mutual and "friendly". We were together for 3 weeks while arranging everything. Sex was GREAT! We even slept together a couple of times a week post split, for a few months. She met a guy and everything changed. She made it VERY tough to get her served with the divorce papers. She told terrible stories to her family and friends. In the legal negotiations, when we were left alone, she told me she "faked it" every-time. This is the legal crazy time.
Once divorce was over, her sanity returned. She would would call once of twice a week to talk, get advice, etc. She trusted me.
After divorce #2, I did a lot of introspection. I obviously chose two different crazy women. I needed to look in myself to make better choices.