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Originally Posted by Porsche-O-Phile
She says that now but I bet once she gets an attorney involved she'll change her tune. No lawyer is going to let their client leave tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars in equity on the table. I've seen this happen far too many times with people close to me - it always starts as "amicable" and the moment lawyers get involved it becomes a schyteshow. Remember lawyers only get paid when they're fighting and arguing (or more specifically when their clients are). They have absolutely nothing to gain by seeing you settle amicably and will likely goad you both into making things as contentious as possible to maximize billable hours.
I hope you've lawyered up already. If not, don't wait. Get a good one and document EVERYTHING she says about not being interested in the house, etc. Get it in writing if you can - then you might have a shot. At the end of the day (since you're male) expect you'll lose the house, kids, half your savings and likely your retirement. Sorry, I've seen this happen more times than I can count and I've been dragged in to testify twice at divorce cases that went all the way to trial. It sucks for everyone involved and even those only peripherally involved. All she has to do if things get contentious enough is hint at the word "abuse" and your life will be turned into a hell you can't even begin to comprehend.
Accept the fact that .......
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Originally Posted by steveo12345
Everything said here is 100% correct. I speak from experience.
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Originally Posted by sc_rufctr
^^^ All good but if you do get a lawyer don't "scream it from the roof tops".
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Just keep it simple. Date, time and what was said/agreed to.
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Originally Posted by red-beard
This happened both times to me.
Wife #1 ran off with another guy. She fought the divorce! All she did was run up the legal bills. - Aside, she ran off with another married man. The two of them "thought" they could push his wife out of the house and she would become the new mommy. 
Wife #2 and I were unhappy and stressed out. She had a serious drinking problem that she semi-admitted, but wouldn't treat. The decision to end it was mutual and "friendly". We were together for 3 weeks while arranging everything. Sex was GREAT! We even .. |
It's amazing how a woman's mind and opinion can change overnight once she's convinced she can gain something, and you've fallen out of favor. Guilt doesn't exist for most of them.
Many are generally as faithful as their options.
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