[foxpaws]

I married a good man, had wonderful kids, was incredibly happy. I thought I was living this amazing dream come true. But, where my love grew over time, his did not... it became apparent that he was going through the motions, probably for the kids.

No one should be so unhappy in a relationship - I knew I would survive, and I knew we could carry on as friends and make sure our kids were raised in loving homes. I asked him if he wanted out, he looked so relieved.... We made it work. I never got alimony, and almost no support - I made at least what he did, and over time made more. Never asked for more money - saved it all for college... that was tough some days, lots of Goodwill clothes and spaghetti and sold a Porsche - but I made a promise to myself and my kids, I knew he wouldn't be able to help with college, so I made it work.

He is still a good man, great dad, he just isn't my best guy anymore.

It was a journey I never saw myself taking, but, everyone is happier, I would have been miserable living in a one-sided relationship, it was a rough road to begin with, but when it smoothed out, it had some pretty good sections.