[jhynesrockmtn]

You're a smart guy. Don't be stupid about this - get a lawyer. Now. I can guarantee she has one or very shortly will. If she says she doesn't, don't believe her. She does. As of this moment you cannot trust a single word she ever says to you ever again. She is lying to you, she has been lying to you and she will continue to lie to you as long as you're dumb enough to let yourself be put at a disadvantage and exploited by it. She no longer cares about what happens to you, I've got news for ya'. "De Nial" ain't just a river in Egypt, my man. You need a guide. Get one. Please.

Sorry for your pain but you are one bitter person who is very confident your situation plays out over and over again no matter the individuals involved. It seems like the OP knows his wife pretty well and is a smart guy. There are plenty of lawyers trained in mediated divorces, mine was handled by one. They can protect someone if things go south and will suggest each person has their own attorney but they are trained to manage the situation so that it can have an amicable and fair outcome. Not all women are conniving lying pieces of crap. Sorry you married one.