[ossiblue]

Think for a second. What would motivate you to contact an old girlfriend after 35 years, in the context of "meeting for a drink?" If you're honest with yourself, you'll say "no" to the invite, tell your wife about it, and the both of you have a little laugh.

Your curiosity will not be satisfied, but you can fantasize that the ex still "wants" you after all these years, to the same degree that you "want" her--or any other of your long time exes. Long term memory tends to contain only the good things, especially about former lovers.