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Originally Posted by jhynesrockmtn
This sucks. Have you tried the super direct route? Sounds like you have. Print out her long list of criminal hits and present that to him. Likely not much you can do. My Mom is 80 this year. It's amazing how much her critical thinking and decision making skills have declined even though she shows no real signs of dementia. There is likely an elder protective services department of whatever your state dept. of social and health services is but unless there is active abuse happening they likely would not do anything.
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Thanks. Currently, this is like a bad chess game unfolding. As of two weeks ago, we thought she was just a live in and we had time. Then, last week, we learned of the "shot gun marriage"
My Uncle contacted his brother for "best man".
He refused.
My mother and I have attempted the tact of "we want to be there- but you need to postpone it until a later date" in an attempt for the relationship (which is contentious... surprise
) to self collapse.
On Monday, my uncle approached my mother with intents to get married via courts this week. My mother played her cards, and told him of her criminal record.
She called back, and just like the renters in their sob stories in the "talk me out of being a landlord" thread, tried to convince my mother she was a victim in all 30+ of the criminal charges. My mother (70+ herself) was obviously unconvinced and really isn't at her age used to dealing with this type of stuff.
My in-trouble uncle (otoh) is dancing to her tune and has been drawn in by her sweet siren song.
I have intentionally played the sidelines, realizing that it I play my cards, he will realize NONE of his family supports him, therefore they will pass church and go directly to court and tie the knot.
On Wed, he called me at work and left a message. He didn't say a word. In the background, she stated "Don't say anything, hang up."
He did.
It may be too late.
I am biding my time attempting to figure out as smart of end game strategy as possible, fully aware, that whatever I say may not work, however, currently not accepting the fact that the game is over. She may be manipulative, but she is not thorough or smart. This is where I need to stall and bide time until a prudent course of action takes place (if one is even available).