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Originally Posted by sc_rufctr
The thing is once you know what to look for you can see them coming a mile off.
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True!!! ^^^
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Much has been said here so I'll add this:
Narcissists practice the fine art of Narcissistic Supply...it's what they go after when they take a hostage. When they've bled you of what you have to offer, they move on to their next source of NS. You are strictly incidental in their lives.
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Also, one of the worst things you can say to a N is that they're an N. They fear being found out.
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There is a continuum of Narcissism - at some point it is needed to survive. I don't recall all of the phases, but there's "healthy narcissism", central narcissism, narcissistic difficulty, (I don't recall them all), and Malignant Narcissism (NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder).
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Narcissism is co-morbid with most personality disorders.
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Again, once you know what to look for, you'll see it all around you...it's quite common. In the psych community America is considered a Narcissistic Society.
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I have a neighbor who, when you run into him will greet you, and ask how you're doing. If you tell him that a boxcar just fell out of the sky onto your house, he'll immediately begin telling you about his new coin operated vending machine.
He cares nothing about anyone...doesn't pay attention to what you say, and only waits for you to finish (if he even gives you an audience) so that he can spew forth his blather.
He's the definitive bore!!!
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The foremost authority on the matter that I have found is Dr. Sam Vaknin, a self-proclaimed Narcissist and an excellent source of info >>>
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Self-love, Narcissism, Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Relationships with Abusers, Stalkers, and Bullies - Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Re-Visited