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Originally posted by turbo6bar
IThe question I have, as a single guy, how can you tell if the woman is going to be your soulmate for eternity??? Can you even tell? Do you just take your chances? I've always been worried about the financial implications of a divorce, but then I realized there is a lot more at stake. How I can avoid being a statistic?Jürgen
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Jürgen, no. No. No. With an attitude like that - stay single
Honestly, you don't approach a marriage with thoughts like that. The keys to marriage are communication and respect. It's like a friendship, with benefits
, you constantly have to work at it. Like mentioned previously, people change, that is guaranteed. It's the couple's responsibility to help guide the change into something postive for the relationship.
My wife and I also happen to be best friends. We try to spend our weekends together doing something we both enjoy. Of course we have our personal time - but we absolutely make our time together a priority. Life, work, kids, Porsches, bills, they all compete for your time and energy. As long as you continue to recognize the real priorities you will be ahead of the game.
Your goal should be to locate a women who places the same importance on these things - and not a 2ct diamond ring. In time that will come (suprise for my wife coming - she doesn't read this board).
I couldn't help but think of all the Hollywood marriages that fail when reading your post. The primary reason for the failures - selfishness. These folks are all about themselves and what is best for them. Career, looks, money, all these things are top priority to them. Sure, even us common folk have some of that - but when you commit to a marriage it should evolve into "what's best for us", with just a hint "what's good for me too". Best of luck.