I have been married three times, so I'm not about to give advise. I do however have my experience that I will share a little of. My first marrage was extremely violent, though I have not once had a physical altercation with anyone since we split, & she still has violence in her life. I spent 2 years meticulously building a custody case & Dec. 2001 got custody of my then 13 year old daughter. Two months later the mother had a massive drug overdose & the paramedics called CPS (she has 3 small children from her current marrage). When the case worker visited her in the hospital, she made her vehicle & insurance payment, payed her ulility bills & gave her $200 in food vouchers. This woman has a well doccumented history with CPS, but they refuse to do anything other than enable her. The whole system, CPS, support enforcement & the courts have been hugely inept. But ultimately I am the one responsible, I have to suck it up & do what is best for my daughter no matter the cost. The bitterness & vindictiveness have been put aside for now, but I know I will need professional help if I am to truly put it behind me. Superman I met you last weekend & my heart goes out to you. I am glad I made some life changing decisions (no more partying) seven years ago so that I was available for her when she needed me.
