[JavaBrewer]

My first reaction is that if she settles in the parents bed then is she really in pain? Kids are far more aware than we think. We have a son and daughter. Son was tough at bedtime the first 18 months where as our daughter was totally happy being put in her crib. Not a peep all night.

If you both can rule out actual pain then I think a couple weeks of tougher love is in order. Not easy, I think it's harder on the parents actually.

These things too will pass. Key is to be on the same page with your wife and remain steadfast, loving, and calm.