[GerardW]

I've seen many of these debates over the years and always ask the same question... does a dog chuck her puppies away when they become troublesome... NO, she cuddles them closely and gives them comfort.

Why must we be different ? Comfort your child. Its what you signed up for. Before you know it they are grown-up and you blew that chance. Then they have kids and you're a granddad and suddenly you realize what BS tough love is.

I know... I'm there and deeply regret the "let them cry themselves asleep - they'll soon get over it" advice.