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Originally Posted by McLovin
How's it going, Lee?
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We filed last week, on 11.16.16. AZ has a 60 day waiting period so everything should be final around the middle of January.
We had a 2.5 hour mediation session and that was it. There was some give and take on both sides, but I think the outcome was fair to both parties. In lieu of support, she did not contest an inheritance I had from years ago as my sole property and valued her 401K at face value instead of after tax value.
So I get the house + inheritance. She gets her 401K. Everything else will be split 50/50.
Parenting time is dictated by her work schedule. She's generally gone 17 days/month, so I automatically come out ahead there. The trade off is that my schedule for the next couple of years will revolve around her work.
We got along fine throughout the process. Came out on excellent terms... friends. I'm confident we'll stay that way.
Emotionally, I'm in great shape. I found a divorce support group on Facebook. This isn't a sit around and a circle and cry sort of group, but a social group. It's just been incredible. Tons of new friends, events, dinners, camping trips... I'm having a blast getting to know all of these people. They've all been through it so it's been the perfect place for me to be. Can't imagine I'd be as emotionally well at this point had I not found these folks. I'm sure many of the friendships I've developed there will last a lifetime.
Been on a few dating sites too.
Have met some great women... the majority are way more into me than I was into them! Feels weird... cool, but weird. For me the chemistry was lacking with all but one. We'll see how that turns out. Taking things super slow. We've only met in person once, but dinner lasted 3.5 hours and thankfully the staff of the restaurant didn't kick us out when they closed an hour and a half before we left!
I'm cautiously optimistic about her. Not getting my hopes up, but it's nice to experience the chemistry that was lacking with the others I've met. If things ultimately go nowhere with her, I at least have a new bar for how things should feel. Thanks for your concern, but please... no lectures on transitional relationships, rebound, etc. I'm aware... she's aware. It's something we've talked about.