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Talking about PIA. I'll tell you about a PIA.

Let brother Bob stay at my house over Thanksgiving weekend. There is 13 years between me and the next oldest sibling. Bob is 20 years older than I am. He is my oldest sibling.

He tells me I need to clean house. Told him I agreed but am under doctors orders to NOT do anything for the last 2 months because the activity would raise my blood pressure and cause my eye to bleed. I'm supposed to just sit around an take it easy. There is 2 months worth of trash scattered in the living room that Pepper pulls out of the trash can and shreds. Picking it up and vacuuming does make my eye bleed which kind of scares me and makes me stop.

So Bob tells me I need to hire a maid. Tell him I would love to and had a maid helping out every other week when Mom was alive, but right now all my cash is tied up in swapping cars and paying travel expenses and groceries for my older brother to visit for the week of Thanksgiving.

He went to the store and bought particle masks to wear, "Because he can't handle the dust and dog hair." He complains about the cigarette smoke and dog hair every time he stays here. He also keeps turning my thermostat from 72°F to 76°F and the TV way too loud despite having a hearing aide I bought him that he won't use around the house but notice he uses when he goes somewhere. It looks like like one of those Bluetooth phone ear/microphone things.

Anyway the evening of his 2nd day here it tells me he wants the living room cleaned up before I go to bed, like a parent would. I told him the vacuum is in the hall closet if he wants it any cleaner and that cleaning the living room is not worth me loosing the eyesight in one eye.

So Bob goes off in a tirade about how I've always had it easy and how Dad always let me get away with stuff. Told me Dad said it wasn't worth making me do stuff when I was not doing what I was supposed to when Bob came to live with us.

After I got out of college I moved in with Mom and Dad to help Mom take care of Dad, he was having major health issues. I did almost everything around the house and took care of the cars, lawn, and fruit trees and house sat when they went out of town while Dad was able to travel. 3 years after I had been home from college helping with Dad Bob moves in. He has no money, no Job, and sold my first car we had given him a few years before. During his stay he is using Mom's car and getting $5 a day from Dad.

If anyone asked Dad if we wanted anything else, like a waitress at a restaurant, he always said a bushel basket of $5 bills. For his birthday, just before Bob moved in, I had given him a bushel basket of $5 bills. It was $500 in bills wadded up and put in a bushel basket. Dad cried when I gave it to him.

Anyway, After Bob moved in and Dad was giving him one of the $5 bills every day. Dad told me to stop mowing the lawn and several other things I did because Bob was getting money and they were Bob's job now because he needed to earn his keep. So, Bob telling me that Dad was taking it easy on me and not making me do stuff was his own made up BS. I went on a tirade right back at him.

Told Bob that was interesting, that instead of telling me he didn't want to hassle with punishing me that Dad had specifically told me he let me do things because I did what he asked me to when he asked me to and how he asked me to so he could trust me. Then told Bob that when he came to stay I was specifically told not to do the stuff I had been doing to help because HE, Bob wasn't earning his keep and that Dad was giving him a $5 bill every day and Bob need to do something to earn it. That the $5 bills Dad was giving him I had given Dad for his Birthday. And told Bob about he time he got mad and yelled at me loud enough the whole neighborhood could hear. Yelled that I was just leaching off Mom and Dad, AND right after that Mom and Dad were leaving town and Dad gave me $300 to buy food for Bob, but if Bob didn't apologize for calling me a leach to spend it on myself, to not buy any food for him, and not leave any food the house.

Told Bob that in fact, since he didn't do anything to help around the house Dad kicked him out and quit giving him the $5 a day. And the only reason they let him keep Mom's car was that he had wrecked it and Mom no longer wanted it despite the fact it had been her Mom's.

Bob is a PIA.