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Originally Posted by onewhippedpuppy
Nothing to gain, lots to lose. Hard to see why the question was even asked, and I think you already know the right answer.....
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Lots of good wisdom in this thread.
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"...It would be very easy for me to walk away..."
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Apparently you have yet to 'walk away'.
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" I see signs he may have grown up. From what I can tell, he is married, with kids and gainful employment."
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The world is full of cons who are married w/children & a job.
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"My hope is enough time has passed that he has some perspective and maturity."
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Hope? What's your investment in hoping for this guy, anyway?
Are you hoping that he will participate (giving you an apology) in what you perhaps are not willing to do on your own?...to let go and accept?
Wanting some form of a lb. of flesh, perhaps? Some subtle form of vengeance? A need to be 'right'?
"Maturity"? Maybe look at this as an opportunity to model for him your won maturity by presenting to him a life lesson.
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When I'm right with myself, and presented with a similar scenario, I ask myself, "What value can/will this person bring into my life?"
Most often the answer is 'nothing'.
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"Why am I perseverating over this?"
Sometimes it's a function of not being willing/able to "let go", not willing/able to accept what's so in life...and that awareness tells me that I'm on the threshold of personal development and upon that is what I base my decision. Am I willing to grow up?...to mature?...to let go?...to embrace acceptance of a loss?
It's an 'inside job'...this acceptance business.
I have always had difficulty with it, myself...especially the acceptance of my own eventual death...the biggest loss of them all.
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/pieces-mind/201207/radical-acceptance
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