[billybek]

Sorry to hear of your troubles, Wayner.
I am another one of those guys that after 10 years my ex-wife wanted out.
There were (fortunately for me) no kids and it was pretty straight forward but I went to the best lawyer I could afford to put together a separation agreement that eventually became the divorce agreement.
DO NOT just say she can have the property/possessions. Get your lawyer to hammer out what belongs to who at a very early stage an leave nothing on the table that can be questioned later on. (RRSPs, pensions property possesions)
You need your fair share to get on with your life without her.
Ask friends and business associates who they or their friends used for legal representation.
A bad lawyer will cost you hundreds of thousands of dollars after the legal fees has been paid!
Get on that ASAP!!!!
I wish you the best and I know what it is like to be gutted this way.
Admittedly I handled it the way most hardworking tradesmen would handle the situation.
I drank. A lot!
Didn't take too long to get my **** together and move on.