[berettafan]

Don Ro brings some needed perspective to this thread.

OP your soon to be ex probably believes you were blind for years. She likely is counting on you continuing to be blind. whatever happens do NOT become the whiney 'why me'?' ***** I see so many guys who were surprised by divorce become. have a client like that. first few times he talked about the separation I felt for him. after a year he was still whining and I was like no wonder she left you dude, you have zero spine and nil self respect! spending money ain't gonna fix anything and is emotionally the same thing as a bitter old fat woman buying tubs of ice cream and watching old movies. it's self destructive and will attract the wrong kind of woman to you.