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Originally Posted by sugarwood
My guess is that she never got over her bad boy EX, settled for the OP, and somehow reconnected while she was in her hometown. Maybe she was never that into OP. Tons of women settle for a safe guy, while secretly pining for the exciting bad boy that got away.
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Good guess.
After I met her I heard about this guy that hurt her. I heard about it before and after we got married for a few years. She was worried that I would leave her or cheat. She said this guy hurt her really bad. I told her I would never do something like that, it's just not in my character. She eventually figured out I wasn't going anywhere and stopped talking about it. Every time we made a trip to Minnesota we would visit this lady that she told me was a family friend. This lady even came out to visit us, we took her and her new husband around to see the sights. Turns out the lady was the missing boyfriends mom. This guy was back on the radar in 2015. He called my mother in-law to see how things are going. Putting in a feeler I think.
His wife cheated on him. His son came home to find mom with a strange man in the house. So his divorce was final in October of 2015. My wife went to care for her mom in march of 2016. Ten days after she got there she met up with him to ask him why he disappeared. He gave her some lame excuse and it was true love all over again. She said she didn't mean for this to happen, but it did. She told me that he has always been in her heart, her soul mate, and it wouldn't be fair to me to come back home knowing he is out there. I have to agree. As far as I can figure from the info I found, she only spent 6 to 9 days with him before she decided to leave me, her kids, her animals, home, friends and everything she has had here for 26 years. She told me she was happy with me, but is happier now. Mostly because he is a christian like her. She wanted her husband to be the spiritual leader in the family. I gave it a good try for a few years after we got married, but I just could not believe the story. Originally she said she would be fine with me whether I believed or not. ( I swear I'm a better person than 95% of the so called Christians). I not sure what to believe, If I was just a place holder for all these years? I don't think so, but.. But whatever, In 5 weeks it will have been a year since she told me she was leaving, so I'm pretty much over all the crap and just want it to be final. I'm ready to move on, enjoy the new freedom that I have been enjoying for a while now. As it stands right now I have no desire to have another wife. I will never do that again. But who knows, not first on my list.
I have had a lawyer since May of 2016. Lawyer told me the good news is, I make lots of money, the bad news is, I make lots of money. No I won't buy anything until this is over, not sure If I will stay in our current home or not. She doesn't want it. We are not fighting, have already split most stuff, all that is left is the arbitration for money. It could go bad for me, or really bad for me, don't know. I don't think she is out for blood but who knows after spending that long with her new guy. I don't know what he has been telling her. She has been living at his house since August last year (actually a guest house on his property). Is she a bad person? no. Just an idiot. Think good looking dumb blond.
As far as the kids, they are both mad, sad, upset. Daughter still talks to her, but thinks she is an idiot. My son has not talked to her since. They both have 2 year degrees but not sure where they want to go from there. They have part time jobs but still live at home. Son is looking into becoming a pharmacist. They are awesome kids, doesn't matter what I lose in the divorce, I will still have them.
Hope I answered some questions.
Now back to toys! Maybe a new truck and camper. Then I could get a covered trailer and take the Harley to places I would like to ride. I think I would like that better than riding and staying in hotels. I could set up base camp, then go see some stuff. I have friends to ride with.