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Originally Posted by M.D. Holloway
Often in the case of strippers and hookers they were raped and or molested as a kid and often repeatedly. One would think that the idea of sex would be abhorrent but actually they feel that sex is no big deal and actually can have sex very often but without much care. Its actually a coping mechanism. As if to say "I'm not gonna think this matters because if I do I'm gonna get really bummed out over the fact that my uncle used to rape me...so its no big deal..."
That is the attitude. Not saying teach was a vic when she was young, just say'n why sex can be really meaningless to some folks.
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In most instances, it's a matter of power for one and then a matter of using sex to overcome the fear of closeness, for the other.
WRT power, the victim identifies with the power of the offender, not the offender or the act, but the power of the offender. This is then acted out later as an attempt regain one's own sense of personal power, their personal power that was stripped from them during the original violation.
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WRT the fear of closeness, the victim will engage in sex as a way of being as close as possible to another w/o disclosing themselves. Sex becomes a substitute for true intimacy. Not so uncommon in the psych community as it's referred to as "Attachment Avoidant".
This is quite a prominent feature within the Borderline Personality Disorder structure...as they are known for engaging in impulsive and reckless behaviors such as casual unprotected sex with strangers.
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Both of the above can be present, in actuality.