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Originally Posted by Don Ro
In most instances, it's a matter of power for one and then a matter of using sex to overcome the fear of closeness, for the other.
WRT power, the victim identifies with the power of the offender, not the offender or the act, but the power of the offender. This is then acted out later as an attempt regain one's own sense of personal power, their personal power that was stripped from them during the original violation.
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WRT the fear of closeness, the victim will engage in sex as a way of being as close as possible to another w/o disclosing themselves. Sex becomes a substitute for true intimacy. Not so uncommon in the psych community as it's referred to as "Attachment Avoidant".
This is quite a prominent feature within the Borderline Personality Disorder structure...as they are known for engaging in impulsive and reckless behaviors such as casual unprotected sex with strangers.
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Both of the above can be present, in actuality.
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Don,
Going into a particular ghost writing project several years ago (and my contract really forbids too much details or I could get sued and loose royalties - not that there is much) that the above statement is a psychologists statement and while I can see where it is an explanation, that interviews I did with a bunch of these women both strippers, hookers and non-adult women who had been molested (and no I didn't do any hookers!) all indicated what I found to be true. I didn't lead the question merely asked open ended questions and let them talk in a relaxed, comfortable environment. And the vast majority had trust issues that would put a cage fought pitbull to shame.