[unclebilly]

I went through this with my grandma a few years ago (mom died from cancer and I was grandmas POA and decision maker). What we did in the end was we would take her out of the home on little trips (I wish we thought of this a few years earlier).

We would either load her in a wheelchair and push her over to the mall (West Edmonton Mall which used to be the worlds largest mall was a block away) or call a cab setup for wheelchairs and go out for a drive around town. These little outings really picked her up and were better than the circular discussion about the weather and how the family was.

Grandma made it to 100 and visits in the last 5 years were tough before we started taking her out. I wish we thought of this sooner.

I didnt read through the whole thread before posting the above.

We had a close call with grandma about 6 months before her 100th. The nurses, everyone thought it was the end. She quit eating, etc. I made arrangements with the funeral home thinking things were imminent.

We were visiting her and suddenly asked for a glass of juice, I got her one (nobody thought she would drink it). She did and then asked for another. We got her a few of those ensure drinks and this is where she turned the corner. After a few days she was back to 'normal'. It was after this that we got the idea to take here on little outings. She lasted another 9 months.

Best of luck with your mom, this is a tough row to hoe.