[RKDinOKC]

Took care of my Mom in her declining years. There are a couple of things.

Other people tend to treat a terminal person like they are already dead.
My siblings would come into her home, rearrange thing,s and get rid of things they thought she no longer needed. They never considered they were Mom's things. She liked where she put them before her decline, and kept them because she liked them not because she needed them.

When people can do less they tend to focus on the aches and pains.
Just sitting around with little to do or focus on every little ache or pain becomes the focus of attention. And the pain medications need to be rotated as each one will stop helping after they get used to them and start focusing on the pain again.

The best thing I did for her was to get a puppy. It just wouldn't leave her alone and not only distracted her from the pain, taking care of the puppy gave her something to do. She liked cats and I tried a cat, but cats tend to keep to themselves where a puppy wants attention and to be a part of everything you do. The puppy stayed with her all the time, and looked to her for food and being let out to the bathroom. The puppy even slept with her. She even started cooking after she had not even tried to cook for years. She cooked for herself, but actually it was so she could feed the puppy from her plate.