[RKDinOKC]

Did not put Mom in a facility. Before Mom started declining, I bought a house and moved both her and an older brother with MS into it. Mom and I took care of him until she started having problems. Then my brother moved in with a girlfriend that took care of him. When Mom started declining she was in a house she decorated and had been living in. Instead of putting her in assisted care I started working from home so I could keep and eye on her. The last month we had hospice coming in every a day for and hour or so.

I am sure having her in "her" home with someone she knew made a huge difference.

Friend of mine's father got Alzheimer's. He did pretty well until they moved him to assisted care. Then he went down hill very fast despite them making it as homey as possible. If he woke up in the middle of the night disoriented, there was no-one he even remotely knew. Mom would wake up in the middle of the night. She would ask me where we were, when we were going home, or where people she thought were there had gone. Then tell me that she was sure glad I was there.