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Originally Posted by cashflyer
Sometimes stuff like this bothers me. Sometimes I think, what ****ing difference does it make.
You're born. You muddle through life. You die.
When you're in the ground, will people be standing around talking about your perfect diction and manners?
Will a teenage girl holding her fork in a way that somebody deems 'proper' help to end world suffering? Or does it just show that she can be trained, like a dog?
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Originally Posted by john70t
^+1 cashflyer
I've been a waiter several times and I wouldn't have taken offense to that phrase. It's not conforming in the most proper of highbrow english standards but it conveys the message. And of course a 'thanks' goes a long way. Communication is 95% non-verbal anyways. Haven't you ever met those guy/gals who uses the correct verbiage but look you up and down disapprovingly with a half sneer on their face followed by a dismissive wave or a blank wall like they are a robot? I'd prefer to be around the first any day of the week.
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Here's the thing... I'm not talking about "highbrow" manners, whatever those are. We live in an informal world, (at least most of the time), but people can still show basic manners. Saying, "I'll do the...", without a please or thank you just makes you a low life POS, in my book. In the book of anyone who was raised properly.
"I'll do the..." Are you going to fk the roast beef sandwich? What the hell does that even mean?
There is nothing wrong w Sammy saying, "I'll have the steak." A *please* would be nice but NBD. If he said, "Can I have the steak?", I'd say, "I dunno, how fast can you run? That steak is a mover."
It's about basic communication and consideration for other people at the end of he day. Manners are just a way of acknowledging that there are other people in your presence and they have rights as well, like to not see someone chew food w their mouth open.
