[stomachmonkey]

Yeah it sounds quirky but everyone has a trigger.

Could be that the stress of worrying about their home, and how they want it maintained, is too overwhelming for them hence no invite.

My BIL liked my kids, was great with them, but whenever we went over to their place he was on pins and needles.

Me, I have a hard time watching my wife cook or clean.

She makes messes that she does not need to. The mess itself does not stress me, it's that the mess did not need to happen that stresses me. The inefficiency and laziness of it.

End of day, if you rang their bell with a dead body draped over your shoulder are they the kind of friends who would answer the door and say "I'll grab a shovel"?

That's all that really matters.