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Originally Posted by unclebilly
Go get him and take him with you. I posted this before in another thread but my brother and I took my 99+ year old grandma with dimensia out of the nursing home numerous times. We would wheel her over to the West Edmonton Mall in her wheel chair numerous times. We would call up the wheel chair cab to take her out to supper or for drives around town. These outings really perked her up, even though she didn't always know who we were or what was going on. Suddenly she would perk up with the neatest memories and show she knew who we were.
Honestly, what are you afraid of? I'm so glad we did this with her. I wish we did this sort of thing with my mom before she passed. She wanted to take a train trip across Canada but my dad wouldn't hear of it. I wish we took her.
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I agree with you on this.
Dad was on a ventilator, but we brought him home because that's what he wanted. So we did after a few months. We sat around and had dinner like we would normally do on some weekends. Grandkids visit and hang around. We took him outside and walked with him with a portable unit so he can see sit in his backyard. It was great when it lasted for a couple of months. My sister and i would stop by daily just to hang out at the house with him and mom. Thankfully we has some help, someone to look after him. It was all worth it.
Leak, do it or else you will kick yourself when he's gone. I still can see that day when I was siting in the kitchen table eating watermelon with him after dinner. The two of us talked about the trip we took to Alaska with the grandkids some years ago.
There are no regrets on my part becasue we did the best we can for him and he knew it. We were there at the facility daily, brought him dinner or lunch. My only regrets was not making it there holding his hand as he passed. Mom and I should have stayed. My sister was there but he passed just when she went off to the restroom. Mom and I are having a hard time with that but we did all we can. I stayed holding his hand for a few hours until the mortuary people came to take him. the nurses had to kick me out so they can take all the IVs off him. I just couldn't leave him be by himself for this journey.