Jurgen,
If the bike is even slightly tweaked, I'd ask for a replacement. Surely, other parts of the bike are scratched, yes (handlebar, deralliers, crank arm, brake/shifter handle? If it's just the fork, I'd ask for a new fork. It doesn't sound like the shops you visited are on your side. What are they, affiliated with your insurance company? Would this happen if you drove your car into an automotive body shop with a tweaked front end? "Sir, the right front strut is bent and the closest we can get the camber is +2º, but it'll be fine, tires are cheap. And the scratch on the fender? It's an old car. What do you expect? Don't worry, be happy."
Go elsewhere for your damage estimate. I would even suggest making the damage a little more apparent if the "slight camber" doesn't do it for them. In addition, reinstall the bent wheel back for better visual effect.
The Velomax road wheels probably lean more toward lightweight and aero rather than strong (and heavy). How strong do you want the wheel or are you thinking instead - stiff? Contemplating future collisions?
(sorry). If you want strong, you could go to a heavier road wheel. Real strong? Try a mountain bike wheel.
Sherwood