[stealthn]

So I’m adopted, always new, had great parents and family but like all adoptees I wanted to know more about my past. I knew most of the story, young parents, unmarried in the 60’s, father bailed when he found out I was coming.

It was hard to get any info on adoption until the rules changed and I found out my birth name. Unique last name and I knew some of the family origins so I went old school and made phone calls. Was able to gather a lot of info and got my mom’s name. Traced her down and finally wrote her.

She seemed glad to hear I was ok and had a good life, but didn’t really seem like she wanted to get closer (which hurt, but it’s Ok). Anyway I found out I have a half brother and sister. I know their names, what they do, where they live, but I don’t think they know anything about me.

Now my question, should I try to contact them even though my mom hasn’t told them about me? My wife says “yes of course” but I am more vexed about doing it, mainly for the fact it may reflect bad on my birth mom, and open up some wounds for her.

Thoughts?