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Originally Posted by stealthn
Good stuff guys, very thought provoking.
I am on the same wavelength, it would be nice to know more, but the will on my birth mother’s side isn’t there, so I am fine with leaving it there. Still feels strange 
I left it with the last letter I wrote her with our family picture in it saying if she wanted more contact it would be great, but if she didn’t want to respond I’d respect that. |
This seems wise. You reached out and made contact, the ball is in her court. It is an incredibly difficult and yet altruistic thing to give up your child to a family that is actually ready to raise one, and I am sure re-living that pain is hard for her. Further digging on your part may tear the fabric of her life so let her make the next move.
I see the other side where a friend's daughter gave birth at 18, babydaddy fled the coop, and she insisted on raising this child with zero parenting skills, zero means to support herself, and a single-mom chip on her shoulder. Twenty years mostly on public assistance and the young lad is now a father himself, spinning out, with a heavy sense of entitlement.
I'd say your birth mother gave you a generous gift.