sad news

[JonyRR]

ditto to all of the above.

Since we are all immortal points of light and this physical body is just a shell for one brief spark of experience, you will see him again.

My deepest sympathies.

[AndrewA]

That was beautiful Flatty.


godspeed Kevin!

[Stampertje_35]

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.
My thoughts too are with you and your family.
My sincere condolences.

Jack

[SergioK]

My heart goes out to you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[2wheelmike]

As a father of two young boys whom I have encouraged to enjoy motorcycling (just dirt so far), I hope I never experience what you're going through. God bless you, your family and Kevin's soul-

[Brian9]

My sincerest condolences. He will always be with you as you live your life.

[MXCVIIIS]

Very sorry about your terrible loss! Please accept my sincere condolences.
As a father of two boys, both of them are riding, I can't imagine what you
are going through.

[R111S]

"Weep with those who are weeping"...sharing tears with You over the loss of your beloved Son Kevin.

I too add a prayer asking God to comfort your grieving hearts...Amen.

[smddanny]

I think Flatty said it all, thanks for saying that for me too. My most sincerest condolences to you and yours.

[bill pierce]

So sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine how painful this is for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[TxCan01]

I remember all too well losing my spouse in a car accident and while the pain never completely goes away I feel sure that in time you'll find the peace to smile at the good memories and feel the balance return to your life.
In between may the love and support of family and friends sustain you..

[KnowMan]

Richard --

Though I hardly know you, news of your son's death hit me very hard. It brought back all the heartache in my own life, some eight years ago, when I lost my younger son at age 19. His life was going well, he was happy and had a real future ahead of him. And then he was gone. I believe that losing a child is something only fully appreciated by someone who's unfortunate enough to have had the same experience. It's a brutal event, in part because it violates our sense of the natural order of things. You should be checking out before your children do.

I'll cautiously give you my advice. That would include doing your best to cherish the children who remain. Use your resources. Lean on family, friends, anyone else who offers condolences and assistance. It was appalling for me to learn how many others have had to deal with the same tragedy. And there's such a range of means by which survivors cope -- some successful and some not so. I'd urge you to take whatever professional or organizational help you think will get you through the coming however-long. Compassionate Friends is a remarkable organization of survivors helping other survivors cope. There are others, as well, including, of course, support from church or mosque or synagogue or the like.

The day after my son died, a man I knew (or thought I knew) said to me, "James, my friend, I'm sorry to say that you've just joined a club to which nobody wants to belong." What I didn't know about him until moments later was that he was already an unfortunate member.

It's been 2,879 days since Zachary died. Yes, I count. No, I was never very good with numbers or recall. Yes, it's a sad, unconscious obsession that I fear I'll never shake. I try so hard sometimes to celebrate his life and the good things and what he left behind. But the counting business, the looking back too often is my own folly. It's problematic for me, as well as unhealthy, and one of the reasons I'm still struggling with this loss after so much time has passed. For me, it still feels like yesterday. But that's what makes me think, as I alluded to earlier, that some cope better than others. That said, I'm confident you'll do far better than I. Why? Because you've opened up about it straight away, and here you've reached out to a unique community - a crew of very open, intelligent and, when necessary, caring folk from all over the place. I just went dark for 14 months, didn't use the family or resources to deal with my loss and rebuild / manage my life properly. So I've been my own worst agent in seeking recovery. I'm confident and genuinely pleased to know that you'll do better.

I hope life without Kevin for you and your family will eventually return to a state of near normalcy, with acceptance and peace. Like others here in the forum and everyone else who knows about this and speaks with you, I am so very sorry for your loss. Though I'm not a rigorously religious man, my prayers and thoughts go out to you and yours, in the coming days and weeks. Stay well.

-- James

[peter f]

Please accept my sincere condolences.

[Hansen]

Thats a sad news,My prayers are with you and your Family.

[Dana in Philly]

Let me add my condolences to all those above.

[pwillikers]

Very, very sad news. A tragedy no one should ever have to experience. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

[mfbRSV]

Very sad to hear this! Prayers and heartfelt condolences from Simpsonville, SC.

[Bigred455]

Richard, I'm deeply sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family

[sgoodwin]

Richard, my heartfelt sympathy for the loss of your son, nothing in life can hurt worse than the loss of a child. I lost my wife 8 years ago. I know the black hole that you can fall into. Hopefully your family and friends can keep you from falling in too deep as mine did. I realized my 7 year old daughters entire life had shattered and it was my resposibility to keep her life going forward which went against everything I was feeling at that moment as I wanted so badly to retreat away from everyone. Thankfully my self pity was replaced by that responsibiity to her allowing both of us to heal. It is a slow and ragged progress even for the strongest of us and I pray that strength finds you also. Scott

[X-Triple]

Dear Richard,

It took me awhile to absorb this terrible news before I could respond. No words or thoughts can express my grief that I feel for you and your family.


Rest in peace - Kevin.

-Paul