On the road again

[wdfifteen]

I hate it, but we are leaving this place after only 7 years and moving to a new home. The realtor is picking up the earnest money check in about an hour.

The move is basically a compromise over what my wife needs in life and what I need.
One aspect of our personalities is simply not easily compatible. She is energized by human interaction and can chatter away with anyone about anything for hours. Being around people wears me out, I mean literally sucks the energy right out of me. I could be a hermit. My quiet demeanor frustrates her, and the solution is to get her nearer to more of her people. We are pretty isolated out here, and I love it, but Vicki needs to be nearer her family and friends. We've had 7 years of heaven for me and 7 years of isolation and loneliness for her, so it's her turn. We will be 10 minutes from her daughter and 20 minutes from her best friend, 20 minutes from her quilting guild meetings.
It's not all bad. We're paying $725k for the new place and we'll get $900k to a million for this old shack.

https://www.coldwellbankerhomes.com/ohio/3107-clear-springs-rd/pid_65065047/

[oldE]

So if she is visiting with family, it is quieter where you are, no?
This could work out well for both of you. The big factor now will be: what are the neighbors like.

Best
Les

[masraum]

Yeah, that's tough that you're an introvert and she's an extrovert. At least you've got 5 wooded acres at the new place. You can hide there and avoid people and let her go gallivanting around to recharge her energy while you stay home and charge yours. At least you're not moving into a neighborhood where all of the homes are 15' from the neighbors

[LWJ]

WD,

You have described the exactly how Introverts and Extroverts work. You need to find your happy place at your new digs. I believe that all people oscillate between being an I and and E. It is just a matter of what charges your batteries. Example? I am a crazy extrovert. Made my living in sales. Will work a room like nobody and remember all the names and details. And, I get up before everyone else in my house (it is 6:16 am) and have a couple of hours of introvert time.

Your challenge? Is to find a way to charge your introvert batteries. I saw 5 gorgeous acres. A pool room. You can do this. You are not moving to a high density urban setting.

[Bob Kontak]

Originally Posted by masraum

Yeah, that's tough that you're an introvert and she's an extrovert. At least you've got 5 wooded acres at the new place. You can hide there and avoid people and let her go gallivanting around to recharge her energy while you stay home and charge yours. At least you're not moving into a neighborhood where all of the homes are 15' from the neighbors

I looked at a street view and he has some latitude. Hard to see house with the trees as they are mature and create privacy.

We lived in the Huntwick/Champion Forest area in NW Houston suburbs and those houses were stacked. You had to live inside the backyard privacy fence because once in the front yard you were socializing.

I love "selling the old shack for a million". Growing up we had an asphalt sided house in Toledo that my Dad bought for $5k and he hit bank three years later selling for $7k. Things change. Apples and oranges comparison but just the order of magnitude.

[wdfifteen]

Originally Posted by LWJ

WD,
I am a crazy extrovert. Made my living in sales. Will work a room like nobody and remember all the names and details. And, I get up before everyone else in my house (it is 6:16 am) and have a couple of hours of introvert time.

Your challenge? Is to find a way to charge your introvert batteries. I saw 5 gorgeous acres. A pool room. You can do this. You are not moving to a high density urban setting.

This sounds crazy, but one of my best friends is like you, and I get along great with him. In any setting, he starts working the room and I just fade into the background.

I will be building a garage/shop for my car hobby and there is a pretty good-sized shop in the basement of the house. I'll have plenty of spaces to hole up and work on projects.

[Seahawk]

Excellent post.

Originally Posted by LWJ

You have described the exactly how Introverts and Extroverts work. You need to find your happy place at your new digs. I believe that all people oscillate between being an I and and E. It is just a matter of what charges your batteries. Example? I am a crazy extrovert. Made my living in sales. Will work a room like nobody and remember all the names and details. And, I get up before everyone else in my house (it is 6:16 am) and have a couple of hours of introvert time.

Me as well, except the name part...I really have to work at that.

Originally Posted by LWJ

Your challenge? Is to find a way to charge your introvert batteries. I saw 5 gorgeous acres. A pool room. You can do this. You are not moving to a high density urban setting.

That is the key, at least to me.

A long time ago I was doing some operational flight test on "Tethered Duck", a way to get SEALS in a raft from a helo in minimal time.

Very similar to this:



The E-8 Seal Senior Chief working with me on the program was a very interesting guy. I may have written this before here, but he was an introvert and his description fits me:

An Introvert walks into a room with 25 Stones, an Extrovert with none. When the Introvert leaves, he has no more stones...the Extrovert leaves with 25 stones.

I call it my "Low Stone Warning Light": At about 5 stones I need to be headed form the door.

Find, as LWJ mentioned, your charging station.

Property is beautiful by the way...both of them.

[Scott Douglas]

Inquiring minds want to know which new room will get the quilting machine set up in it?

Beautiful new place, almost makes me want to cash that check they sent us for our place and move east.....but the snow factor is too great a deterrent for me.

[afterburn 549]

I don't mean to get too far off here...and just a thought
Many of today's men are taught they are toxic, dangerous, yada yada.
Some men get confused as to what they should be.
Being quiet is OK.
Saying little is fine.
Buit there is a difference between being quiet and being a leader.
A good leader will let some things go, as there is a lot of satisfaction in people figuring it out.
At times, the leader has to lead despite what the cadre might like .
If this decision is not part of yours, perhaps you might want to indulge more input next time, if there is no going back.
Carry on.

[herr_oberst]

Hopefully you'll have a neighbor to help you paint the out-buildings and do small chores!

Good luck with the move, Patrick. Vicki is lucky to have you, and reversa-vicea.

[wdfifteen]

Originally Posted by Scott Douglas

Inquiring minds want to know which new room will get the quilting machine set up in it?

It will go where the pool table is. We will have to take it apart darn near to the last nut and bolt to get it in there.

[Scott Douglas]

Originally Posted by wdfifteen

It will go where the pool table is. We will have to take it apart darn near to the last nut and bolt to get it in there.

Tinker toys of the highest order!
I don't envy you the task. I will admit I had fun taking ours apart and turning it into a sewing table of sorts.

[ramonesfreak]

Same situation here. I’m a Pisces and she’s a Sagittarius. I’m basically the unibomber without the bombs and manifestos. My wife knows all the neighbors, talks to strangers at the grocery store (and everywhere) and makes me go to parties when I want to stay home

If I could move from here way way way out to the country to a house with a mile long driveway, I would be a happy man

Good luck with the move

[ramonesfreak]

She was morning
And I was nighttime
I one day woke up
To find her lying beside my bed
I softly said, "Come take me"

For I was lonely
In need of someone
As though I'd done someone wrong somewhere
But I don't know where
I don't know where
Come lately

You are the sun, I am the moon
You are the words, I am the tune
Play me

Song she sang to me
Song she brang to me
Words that rang in me
Rhyme that sprang from me
Warmed the night
And what was right
Became me

You are the sun, I am the moon
You are the words, I am the tune
Play me

And so it was
That I came to travel
Upon a road that was thorned and narrow
Another place
Another grace
Would save me

You are the sun, I am the moon
You are the words, I am the tune
Play me

You are the sun, I am the moon
You are the words, I am the tune
Play me

-N. Diamond

[afterburn 549]

I am I said, to no one there......

[Cajundaddy]

Yep. I just spent 5 days in greater Phoenix with extended family and each day I needed 2 hrs to escape the festivities and go hide somewhere to recharge and refresh. Fortunately we had a basement suite which made this possible.

Looks like a nice pad, best wishes on the move.

[wdfifteen]

Trying to get past what I'm losing here and look at what I can do with the new place.



First thing I need is a place for my cars and the lift. At first I was thinking about a new steel 3-car garage, but now I'm thinking maybe just doubling the size of the existing barn with an extension. It has 50 amp 220 and electric heat. It is well positioned for solar panels, too.

Going solar is a priority here, as this place is ALL electric.



The kitchen is small and doesn't have enough storage. That range is resistance electric and looks like 36 inch. I'm getting our realtor to confirm. I want an induction stove and I want a exhaust vent with a fan that will buckle the windows. I think I can get rid of that above-the-stove microwave and shoot an 8" exhaust pipe out the wall. I need more counter space. Can probably extend that island 3 feet.



The room to the left is right off the kitchen and we've decided it will be my office. I can get some floor to ceiling pantry-type cabinets to put where the hutch is now to serve as a kitchen pantry.




We'll be spending a lot of time going up and down these basement steps. They are very shallow - maybe 7 inches or less. I'm thinking I can remove the carpet and screw deeper steps right on top of these. Don't know. I'll have to look into that.

Anybody have Simply Safe alarms or Starlink? This place has both, and the equipment conveys. I don't know anything about either one.

[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by wdfifteen

Anybody have Simply Safe alarms or Starlink? This place has both, and the equipment conveys. I don't know anything about either one.

I have both.

There are a number of Starlink "Generations"...if it is Gen 2, like mine, it was a complete game changer for me in terms of connectivity speed on the farm.

Friends of mine that travel a lot have the "Roam" version since they travel from here to their remote farm in Ohio all the time.

https://www.starlink.com/

We installed Simply Safe in South Carolina and it is a great addition for situational awareness.

Wonderful place, Pat.

[Dixie]

Originally Posted by wdfifteen

The move is basically a compromise over what my wife needs in life and what I need.

Your kind consideration shows you love your wife a lot, and I'm sure she loves you the same. The house and property you sold is very pretty. Being a fellow extrovert I can understand it wasn't the best fit for her.

Lots of people dream of retiring and moving to the country. Not me. I dreamed of living in a luxury condo, the bustle of downtown, and a beach within walking distance. I can't afford that, but I did manage to get close.

[Scott Douglas]

I'd look at stringing some LED lights up on top of the kitchen cabinets for some after hours indirect lighting.