How do you address your MIL and FIL?

[Dan J]

Dead and Deader I'm old

[WPOZZZ]

Mom and dad. For me it is weird calling your parents or in-laws by their first names. Hell, even friends parents would always be addressed as Mr./Mrs.

[VINMAN]

No longer alive, but it's always been Mom and Dad. How its always been in my family for generations.

Could never imagine calling my wife's parents by their first names.
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[Otter74]

We’re not married yet, but engaged. I call them by their first names. I generally call people what they want to be called, and this is what they want me to call them.

As a general case, I have a hard time calling people my parents’ age by other than Mr./Mr if they’re people I’ve known since I was a kid. In these cases I was always asked at some point, usually by my 40s, to call them by their first names, which I did eventually but I find it hard and can’t always do it (they understand, LOL).

If I met someone my parents’ age as an adult, I call them by their first names because this is always what they want to be called by. I have, or have had (a couple have died) a number of personal friends my parents’ age (several of which were long time friends of one or both of my parents) and I always call them by their first name. We are all adults now.

[PorscheGAL]

I call my MIL by her first name. She requested the grandkids call her by her first name also.

In the southern US, it is not unusual to refer to adults as Ms/Miss/Mrs/Mr and then first name. All my son's friends refer to me as Mrs. Stephanie.

If my son ever decides to marry, I hope she calls me mom.

[id10t]

The guy who would've been my FIL died a few months into my relationship with my now wife, so I called him Sir. Not that we spoke much - he didn't speak much English (probably to give me a hard time) and I didn't want to keep asking him for another beer or where the bathroom was. His mother (my GMIL?) I called Abuela like everyone else

The MIL was Harriette, from the beginning.

[id10t]

Originally Posted by PorscheGAL

In the southern US, it is not unusual to refer to adults as Ms/Miss/Mrs/Mr and then first name. All my son's friends refer to me as Mrs. Stephanie.

Yup, for non-relations or significantly distant relations (ie my uncle's FIL was "Mr Sid" to me).

[wdfifteen]

I addressed them by their first names.
I call my wife “Miss Vicki.”
I’m trying to get her to address me as “Mr.”
She issued a hard “NFW” to “Your Exellency.”

[Cajundaddy]

Just ask them what they prefer and go with that. Mine are gone now but preferred to be called George and Gerry (Not Col. Severin and Gretchen). I had brain fade one night and used Gretchen because that is her given name. The stink eye I received seared a hole in my face!

They were a career military family, USMC. They drank too much so we needed an agreed exit word when it was time to get down range. At first they thought I was a silver spoon kid but softened over time and I take better care of their daughter than they took care of each other.

[matthewb0051]

My in-laws were already grand parents when we married. So for me it was their grand parent names; frankly most everyone calls the old man "Pops" anyway. For my MIL before here death, it was Memaw.

My wife calls my folks by their first names.

My FIL is 92.

[A930Rocket]

BILs and SIL, always called my dad. Mr XXXX (last name). Grandkids called him granddaddy.

I was just thinking about this. When I introduce or talk about my friends to my kids, I say Mr or Miss first name. My parents did the same thing with us growing up in the south.

Originally Posted by PorscheGAL

…In the southern US, it is not unusual to refer to adults as Ms/Miss/Mrs/Mr and then first name. All my son's friends refer to me as Mrs. Stephanie.

[A930Rocket]

We called our maternal grandparents, Pop and Mamaw.

Paternal grandparents were called grandmother and granddaddy.

Originally Posted by matthewb0051

…So for me it was their grand parent names; frankly most everyone calls the old man "Pops" anyway. For my MIL before here death, it was Memaw.

[Dixie]

Originally Posted by PorscheGAL

I call my MIL by her first name. She requested the grandkids call her by her first name also.

In the southern US, it is not unusual to refer to adults as Ms/Miss/Mrs/Mr and then first name. All my son's friends refer to me as Mrs. Stephanie.

If my son ever decides to marry, I hope she calls me mom.

Old South it's customary to call everyone Sir or Ma'am from three to 103.

[wdfifteen]

Originally Posted by Dixie

Old South it's customary to call everyone Sir or Ma'am from three to 103.

Vicki is from southern Kentucky and she does that. We were on a river cruise on the Seine, and she called the staff Sir and Ma'am. They were offended. The bartender said they thought she was mocking them. I guess the servants know their place in Europe.