Why am I always first to say I want something but then someone else gets it?

[WPOZZZ]

I have been first and some sellers acknowledge it, but being in Hawaii has some shipping challenges. I acknowledge that as well. We discuss additional shipping, logistics...and hope we can come to an understanding. If not, for me I understand. When PMing someone, I tell them I would like to buy, but are they willing to ship to Honolulu, and if so, what is the additional cost. Some will recalculate the shipping, others will absorb it. For those that absorb the extra cost, I try to send a thank you package.