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[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by brainz01

...I've been meaning to start a thread on parenting tips. As my kids are now 7 and 10, I'm trying to learn from those that have BTDT on how best to develop the next generation in this Brave New World we now live in.

Thanks.

I can say without equivocation that parents presenting a united, agreed upon in advance position to their children is essential across the spectrum.

There was zippy playing mom versus dad. I will also say that my wife and I were willing to listen and if either my son or daughter had their schit together enough to change our minds on a rule or issue, we did.

We were benevolent rulers

Lastly, they will make mistakes; the only zero tolerance rule we had was lying about those mistakes or lying, frankly, in general. Being accountable is a gift that must be learned.

So much more. Remember, take pictures, take time for them, take them places and make them play a varsity sport in HS, an equivalent effort or play an instrument.

Thanks again - hot day, and I've rambled on!

[Seahawk]

I just wanted to provide a quick update, not about Arden but concerning the help/guideance she received from some folks here on Pelican.

Thank you. You folks were great.

If you guys need help finding your children farm acreage in Southern Maryland, I'm your Boy

Seriously, I am very grateful.

[Tobra]

Originally Posted by look 171

Paul, I will say this, its not your kids, it you and your wife's doing / hard work that they turned out this way. I say hats off to both of you.

This is very similar to what I told Hugh and his charming bride.

It is not by accident that people like Paul have kids like they do.

Paul--congrats on a wonderful story and beautiful picture.

Originally Posted by Seahawk

Thanks.

I can say without equivocation that parents presenting a united, agreed upon in advance position to their children is essential across the spectrum.

There was zippy playing mom versus dad. I will also say that my wife and I were willing to listen and if either my son or daughter had their schit together enough to change our minds on a rule or issue, we did.

We were benevolent rulers

We did the exact same thing. and, if Mom or Dad saids something the other disagreed with, the other had to sign on to that program. We'd course correct later as necessary (say, if Dad decreed something stupid).

Originally Posted by Seahawk

Lastly, they will make mistakes; the only zero tolerance rule we had was lying about those mistakes or lying, frankly, in general. Being accountable is a gift that must be learned.

Amen. They will fail. Failure, a biological imperative, builds strength like nothing else. I told my kids if they didn't fail at things, they weren't aiming high enough. Worked out pretty well.

Originally Posted by Seahawk

So much more. Remember, take pictures, take time for them, take them places and make them play a varsity sport in HS, an equivalent effort or play an instrument.

As a pre-condition to getting their licenses, my kids had to complete 3 PCA skills days. To get their own cars, three PCA track events. My daughter loved it and went on to do 70 events her first three years. My son, who is the best driver of all of us, did his three PCA events and that was enough.

Originally Posted by Seahawk

Thanks again - hot day, and I've rambled on!

Thank you for starting this thread.

[Bowling]

Congrats.

[Craig T]

A beautiful young girl and a great success story...For her, and for you as a good parent.