Rampaging Females

[Tervuren]

Originally Posted by Aerkuld

Have you considered introducing them to PARF? They'd fit right in.

Post count would be zero.

Men make their war in public.

Women wage it behind the curtain.

[sammyg2]

If I added up all the days in my life when I did not have a female living in my house, it would only amount to a handful of months.
A handful of lonely, miserable months.
But no drama. Not allowed.

I will admit there were a few times when my daughter still lived at home and it got a little drama-ish.

All better now tho.

[Jeff Alton]

Originally Posted by GH85Carrera

I am so dang lucky. Married 27 years and she is 100% sane. No petty BS at all.

Are you married to a dude? But yes, you are lucky!

[A930Rocket]

Is this something on the Hot/Crazy Matrix?

[RSBob]

Thank biology for menopause. No drama here.

[svandamme]

I keep all my family off facebook, no exceptions.
Last week my 70 year old uncle told me he sent me something
I said whot?
yeah on facebook
i'm like, no way , i don't have facebook (i blocked em all)
he said, sure thing i sent it !! here , and he shows me his facebook


Turns out he's been messaging for over a year to a dude with same name as me (My name on Facebook is totally unrecognisable anyway)

[WPOZZZ]

Tell me about it, my gf is pretty and she's Korean. Nuff said.

[GH85Carrera]

Originally Posted by Jeff Alton

Are you married to a dude? But yes, you are lucky!

We laugh about how similar we are. On Friday nights we always eat out at a different upscale restaurant. I usually hold my hand on my forehead and guess which of the two dozen restaurants she is thinking of. I am right about 50% of the time. No magic, it is just the restaurant I wanted to go to anyway. I have often written down my guess, and let her name her choice, and then show her what I wrote down.

[svandamme]

Originally Posted by WPOZZZ

Tell me about it, my gf is pretty and she's Korean. Nuff said.

She:
tough as nails
Tai Kwon Do

you :
lot's of bruises?

[sammyg2]

Originally Posted by svandamme

I keep all my family off facebook, no exceptions.
Last week my 70 year old uncle told me he sent me something
I said whot?
yeah on facebook
i'm like, no way , i don't have facebook (i blocked em all)
he said, sure thing i sent it !! here , and he shows me his facebook


Turns out he's been messaging for over a year to a dude with same name as me (My name on Facebook is totally unrecognisable anyway)

No facebook for me either.
My wife follows my brothers and sisters-in-law on FB, she keeps me informed on all the family news and rumors.
Keeps the drama and BS at a distance.

[scottmandue]

One word... estrogen

[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by Craig T

I didn't realize you know both my sisters.

Or mine. They are both very accomplished professionals that speak to each other only at weddings and funerals...they each hold perceived slights against the other from High School and college.

They are now in their mid to upper 60's.

Over the years they have tried to rope me into their Othello and Lago (they are both Othello, in their minds) passion play.

I am the youngest and I told them both the truth: "I was 13/14 when the great betrayals between you two allegedly occurred, so, in those days, unless I needed a ride somewhere, I didn't even know you two existed."

Keeps the lid on.

[Tervuren]

Originally Posted by Seahawk

Or mine. They are both very accomplished professionals that speak to each other only at weddings and funerals...they each hold perceived slights against the other from High School and college.

They are now in their mid to upper 60's.

Over the years they have tried to rope me into their Othello and Lago (they are both Othello, in their minds) passion play.

I am the youngest and I told them both the truth: "I was 13/14 when the great betrayals between you two allegedly occurred, so, in those days, unless I needed a ride somewhere, I didn't even know you two existed."

Keeps the lid on.

Are your sisters single? So this just affects them?

Would hate to have some one married to some one else with a grudge like that.

And if cases are similar to what I see, they are probably both guilty in whatever instance is in question. Just the mind is re-arranged to self justify. The need to self justify and be self righteous maintains the continual attempts at bringing people down.

[Tervuren]

I wonder if this situation is more likely among "the religious", than the "non religious".

A core seems to be self-rightousness, an unwillingness to admit their own part in failure.

The only way to not feel guilty is to attack.

[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by Tervuren

Are your sisters single? So this just affects them?

Would hate to have some one married to some one else with a grudge like that.

Both married, not particularly religious...but here is the deal: I don't engage with either of them when they bring up the other.

I nip it! Nip in the bud!

The older one is a bit off TDC but brilliant.

As far as their husbands are concerned, they are both good guys who have set the same boundaries I have. All seems well with both in other aspects of life.

[legion]

Originally Posted by Tervuren

If I were ignorant I'd be happily oblivious.

Problems,

Cannot discuss the issue.

If Issue is discussed one of two things happens:

Deflection

Dishonesty

Subjects warp anything said to fit their imagined(terrible) view of people.

Then they act on that warped perception to undermine others.

Subjects are connected via marriage to power.

Instead of an out in the open fight like men, this a deadly snip, cut, and pressure.

Destruction seems to be the goal, although that wouldn't be acknowledged.

I am safe from it if I keep my mouth shut as I haven't been the target.

But that could change.

It is a terrible thing to know someone that harbors soo much animosity yet hides it to such depths. I know two.

My personal method is just to remove the drama-makers from my life. Barring that, I don't participate in the drama:

My mom sometimes calls and demands that I call my sister to tell her to call my mom. Whenever I get one of these calls, I know my sister is ignoring my mom (usually because she demanded money and didn't get it). I simply don't get in the middle of it.

My sister has been ignoring me since August. I have no idea why. She still gets her birthday phone call, Christmas presents, etc. from me. What she doesn't get is a phone call asking: "Why are you ignoring me?" The truth is that I don't care enough to be sucked into whatever drama she wants.

My aunt has tried to cause drama in my life. When my mother was visiting a few years ago she contacted my mom and invited herself over to my house where she proceeded to demand that I leave (my own house) so that she could spend time with my mom. Once in awhile she tries to "reach out" to me but I have no desire to participate in whatever drama that would bring.

I had a college friend that once called me and demanded that I confront a guy friend of mine for harassing her. She also called him and demanded that he confront me about harassing her. She must have thought that we would fight over her. We had a better plan: we never mentioned the incident again. A few days later, she invited both of us to hang out. She isolated each of us and asked: "Did you speak to [the other guy] for me?" We each replied: "It's all worked out, don't worry about it." No amount of pressing or prompting on her part could get the desired drama. By the end of the night, she was getting visibly angry but didn't know what to do without exposing her ruse.

[legion]

Originally Posted by Tervuren

I wonder if this situation is more likely among "the religious", than the "non religious".

A core seems to be self-rightousness, an unwillingness to admit their own part in failure.

The only way to not feel guilty is to attack.

I'd say not. Spend some time around some self-righteous atheist vegans and you'll see much the same behavior.

[sammyg2]

Originally Posted by Tervuren

I wonder if this situation is more likely among "the religious", than the "non religious".

A core seems to be self-rightousness, an unwillingness to admit their own part in failure.

The only way to not feel guilty is to attack.

Don't know why you had to go there, but I came up with the opposite perception.

[Zeke]

Originally Posted by GH85Carrera

My buddy is twice divorced. He practices the "Catch and release" method of dating. He never leads them on, he is up front, no marriage is going to happen. Date, have fun, remain friends. It is almost spooky how many ex-girlfriends he has that will still call him for advice on buying a car, fix a leaking faucet, or help with a car mechanic.

He is just over 50, reasonably fix, (no gut) and owns a nice house, and very smart. He says women at that age are like picking out what donut to get. Have a bite or two, and move on to the next one.

He says when he finds a solid 10, that is not bat chit crazy, has no young kids, likes to travel, is good in bed, and is a multimillionaire he might settle down. But unicorns are hard to find.

I am so dang lucky. Married 27 years and she is 100% sane. No petty BS at all.

That isn't a unicorn. A unicorn has a chance of being mentally stable. When you get to the part about "multimillionaire" you lost any chance of normalcy. Now don't jump on me for saying millionaires are all fooked up, only single women with over a million to spend. That's what he's implying.

[Gretch]

in the eternal battle between man and pussy, pussy is undefeated.........