you still in touch with your EX-bro/sis in law?

[vash]

my sister's ex-husband. i liked him. he was a cool, gentle dude. could mountain bike my ass into the dirt. and did it often.

when they were together we penciled in a few cool trip ideas. one was to mountain bike this trail in colorado. mountain ride cabin to mountain cabin. it could come with any level of support. we wanted the 4x4 to go ahead of us to move our gear and beer for us..it all comes down to how much $$ we were willing to pony up. with a four man crew, splitting it didnt seem bad.

second was a canadian motorcycle ride.

we still text each other from time to time. i see my sister and her new man this July..i am gonna bring up the topic to see how much she will hate me if i do both trips with him. could be an icy July!!.

anyone still friends with a siblings ex?

[fastfredracing]

he just did my roof. I miss hanging out with him and her. her new beau is alright, but we just do not click .

[GH85Carrera]

Why would she care about who you hang out with?

Does she have any say on your other buddies? She is your sister, not your wife.

Of course, I have no sisters, so I am an total expert on brother sister relationships.

[vash]

Originally Posted by GH85Carrera

Why would she care about who you hang out with?

Does she have any say on your other buddies? She is your sister, not your wife.

Of course, I have no sisters, so I am an total expert on brother sister relationships.

you have a brother? i could draw some parallels on relationships that could piss off a brother.

[gacook]

Originally Posted by vash

you have a brother? i could draw some parallels on relationships that could piss off a brother.

Not me, but one of my best friends. He got divorced years ago, and is still in constant contact with her dad and little sister--our whole friends circle is, in fact. Really cool people.

For me? I never liked my ex's sister, so no issue there. My siblings had pretty crappy ex's, so no desire to stay in touch with any of them.

[GH85Carrera]

Originally Posted by vash

you have a brother? i could draw some parallels on relationships that could piss off a brother.

I do have a brother. He lives 900 miles away so we talk on the phone, and spend very little time together over the last 40 years.

I could understand maybe a brother dating the ex wife of his brother making something weird. But you are not having a romantic relationship with your ex-brother in law. (Not there is anything wrong with that).

I would assume your sister will not be a topic of conversation with the dude, beyond "she is doing fine type of comments from you".

[Tidybuoy]

I had be going on an annual ski trip with my brother-in-laws for over 20 years. Then my oldest sister and brother-in-law split. My sister and other sisters thought that I was a horrible person to keep going on my annual vacation with "him". I've known the guy since I was 5 years old and now that's been 50+years.

To keep the peace, I still go on my annual trip (only missed one year in 35) but I don't talk about it with my sisters. Having 6 sisters can be a challenge since they stick together. Me and my brother are out-numbered

[masraum]

Originally Posted by vash

i see my sister and her new man this July..i am gonna bring up the topic to see how much she will hate me if i do both trips with him.

I don't always subscribe to this theory, but this sounds like one of those times when it's better to ask forgiveness than permission.

For instance,
"ask sister if it's OK to hang out with her ex" - ask forgiveness
"ask spouse about spending $20,000 for a project car in boxes" - probably ask permission
"ask spouse about buying a new knife/watch/spoon" - you can probably get away with forgiveness
"ask spouse about bringing home a 3rd for evening festivities" - if you think either is an option that doesn't end in death or divorce, then I suspect permission is the safest way to go.

[jcommin]

I still know my ex's 1st cousin. I was friends with her before she introduced me to my ex. She is like a sister to me.

[Seahawk]

My youngest older sister married a really interesting guy: Duke, Duke Law School, 3 Handicap golfer, son of a rags to riches owner of a granary in Florence, SC, salt of the earth type of guy.

Who could f'up a wet dream.

After their only child was born he managed to scorch the Earth: Affairs, divorce, children from a bevy of semi-literate breeders, tax evasion, disbarment, estrangement, stir, and bankruptcy.

So, we still hang. 3 Handicap means something in my world.

I kid.

[GH85Carrera]

My business partner manages to remain friends with many of his ex girlfriends. He has remained buddies with his ex wife's brother. He still is civil with his ex wife for the sake of their daughter even when he caught her "in the act" of cheating on him.

He enjoys the fact that his ex-wife gets mad at the fact her own brother likes to be with him more than his own sister.

My business partner still gives advice on dealing with plumbers or contractors to many ex-girlfriends. I call him the "rent a jerk" for dealing with car salesmen and service writers at dealerships. He will do and say thing to get action on problems that few ladies can muster. Many mechanics or contractors just try hard to cheat a lady and tell them the fritzler bearing are bad, and it needs a full rebuild. They don't try that with most intelligent men.

[look 171]

I don't really talk with my bro or sis in laws but the typical small talk when I see them for family stuff so I have nothing to offer. I do have a story from one of my childhood friend. This dumb ass and I did a lot of stuff together until our mid 20s. His sister and her husband split up. Her ex husband ended up moving in to a condo and taking in both her parents with him. They are older and needed some looking after but independent for the most part. I have to say, we need to give this guy an award. I met him, a fantastic guy.

[Tobra]

No, but my ex wife had a son before I met her, and I am fairly sure he likes my wife better than his mother.

[fintstone]

No. I just don't have any friends...so don't have to worry about these problems.

[Bob Kontak]

Originally Posted by peteremsley

Still talk to my ex's brother and father. She still talks to my brother. She's also coming with kids to make brunch on sunday for me and GF. Maybe we're odd

Odd? Nope.

I got her Dad in the divorce settlement. 85

He comes to the shop couple times a week and holds the flashlight AND keeps me on task.

[jhynesrockmtn]

My ex and I split on good terms and have remained friends. It has paid huge dividends as our kids finished growing up. We both walked my daughter down the isle at her wedding a few weeks ago. I never really liked her sister so no big loss there. I did see her Dad occasionally prior to his dementia getting bad. Would go up with my son who was close to his Grandpa and go crabbing or fishing. Sadly he is a shell of his former self. I'll be at his funeral to pay my respects.

[dad911]

Want to hear about my ex-sister and her husband? She lives local, mentally abuses our mother, didn't even visit when mom was in the hospital. Only see her at funerals.