Lookin to visit SW FL this fall. Need a ride from there to Havana. My car gets 40mpg...so I figure a little over 200 miles @ 40mpg is 50gals.
I could pay you 25 galX$3 or $75 for the trip...because you would be on the boat also.

Let me know. :D

Well I look at it a little differently, you don't get to drive the boat so the gas thing is not a big deal for me.
But you should pay for all the beer, snacks, lunch and offer to help wipe/wash it down if you want to be invited again.

Once, sure. How many times before he should at least offer? Or help clean up? The guy's an oblivious dick.

Sorry, these excuses don't fly. The OP says he has owned a boat in the past. I will grant you that he is not obligated to pay anything since you invited him but the right thing to do is offer. This guy probably has 'alligator arms' when they go out to dinner and the check shows up.

I say cut him out. It bothers you that he is selfish and there is no reason for you to pay for the day and be miserable. I think telling your wife is a great idea. He will get the news. That said, I still wouldn't invite him. If he asks to go, I'd be blunt: "I've paid for the last few trips so how about you pay for the fuel this trip and bring a cooler of something to enjoy?". If he agrees let him pay the full price. If he is offended, have a nice life.

I've always had a personal rule when invited on a boat. Chip in for gas and never show up empty handed.

Sorry, I'm spending the day with my son, we don't get much time together.

End of story.

The question is...how many boat owners set out with..."how can I recoup my gas costs?"
If you can't accommodate a friend...why have the boat?

I’m going out tomorrow and it will just be my son and I. Of coarse I don’t expect my son to pay, but I do expect him to clean the fish and help with the boat. Or he won’t be going again either. He always does, and more.

My wife said her friends husband does nothing, if a light bulb needs changing they have a handyman over. The boat he had was to much trouble because he did did not want to do anything himself. He had a dock and lift, but paid to have it taken care of somewhere else. They would put it in the water for him and then clean it and flush when he was done. He just paid for it.

He’s a lawyer, for what it worth. I guess he never had to get his hands dirty. He’s really not that bad a guy. But it’s not for me to entertain him.

This guy is not really my friend, it’s my wife’s friends husband. I’ve taken the guy several times, he knows what it cost, and that there is things to do when you get back. I guess I didn’t buy the boat to take my wife’s friends out.

And my friends always offer to help out, at least help with the boat, or take me out on theirs. I’d feel like a mooch if I was always going out on someone’s boat and didn’t offer something.

I think since your inviting him he doesnt owe you anything. You ask a girl on a date and expect her to pay half? He is not your friend. Your wife can take him somewhere if she likes him that much

Friends don't let friends pay for everything without offering to chip in.
He is the mooch husband of a friend of his wife.

Also, wifey needs to know so that this doesn't come back to haunt him again.

Just stop by and pick me up. You could just drop me off at Key West. Maybe you can get someone from there to take you to Havana. Unless your able to stop on the way back I’d have to deduct the cost of my return trip.

When are you coming by?

I agree, he doesn’t owe me anything. I’m just not taking him again.

It’s like you ask a girl out on a date and her brother showed up instead. Do you pay for his dinner? More than once?

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Thanks for the thoughts, I do see both sides.

It just bothers me with this guy, and the easy way is I don’t take him again. The wife says it puts her in a uncomfortable position, but knows why.

I was curious how others thought about it and if I was out of line.

No offense but that comment makes her seem very selfish.

Also disrespectful to you.

Sorry....I don't know what else to say.

I'm pretty sure after reading his posts here that if the OP was hosting a friend, he would turn down offers of money but probably accept the help putting the boat and gear away.

OP's acquaintance on the other hand, offered nothing, just a pair of heels when the fun was over - and more than once.

This guy failed the audition for friendship.

He’s a lawyer? Fish bait ! Do us all a favor.
Tim

What do they call a lawyer at the bottom of the ocean?

A good start . . . .