Menopuse

[Scott R]

How have guys delft it? I'm trying to be uber nice to my wife but she just has episodes whee she just kicks my ass. I've tried flowers dark chocolate, nothing work

Any suggestion? She works 12 hours a day as a high school teacher,


I want to move to my insurance since it's PO, but have to wait for open enrollment,

Anyone gone through thus before?

[sc_rufctr]

I haven't had to deal with it directly but my ex wife going through it right now.
My kids are trying to do the best they can. They love their mum but she's being really awful right now.

HRT (hormone replacement therapy) may be an option but I've also heard negative things about it.

I would encourage you to hang in there. At some point she'll come out the other side and things should return to normal.

FWIW: My much younger GF has "episodes" every couple of months or so. She's only 47 but IMO she's driven by her hormones. When she gets like that I just keep my distance for a while and let her contact me. (One of the benefits of not letting her move it. )

[Bill Douglas]

Originally Posted by Scott R

She works 12 hours a day as a high school teacher,

12 hours a day. Duh. I think she's having an affair.

[Scott R]

Originally Posted by Bill Douglas

12 hours a day. Duh. I think she's having an affair.

its possibles but she drives a Tesla so I always where she us,

[Bill Douglas]

Ah. Good skills!

[dewolf]

Mine is a hot, blonde, cranky 55 year old that wants to f$%k all the time. It's working for me

[oldE]

Guys, there is life after menopause. My wife went through it for over 10 years. Mood swings, yes, but she was aware of the mechanics of her body. We survived.
The fun part is:now I 'm having the occasional hot flash!

Life just gets funner.
Les

[GH85Carrera]

Originally Posted by dewolf

Mine is a hot, blonde, cranky 55 year old that wants to f$%k all the time. It's working for me

Yea, it is a real burden we live with.

[id10t]

Married to a redheaded puerto rican goign thru menopause now....

Not sure if it is the redhead side or the puerto rican side but I can't really tell the difference from before/after. Complaints about hot flashes (nah, they are power surges!) and she's been incredibly horny, so.... no complaints here?

[stomachmonkey]

Originally Posted by dewolf

Mine is a hot, blonde, cranky 55 year old that wants to f$%k all the time. It's working for me

That's the premenopausal stage.

Don't be surprised if it changes post.

[fintstone]

This helps some women a lot (after about a week). As long as she realizes that she is menopausal (otherwise, she might be insulted).
https://www.oneaday.com/vitamins/vitamins-for-women/womens-multivitamin-for-menopause

[3rd_gear_Ted]

Manopause is what men have when women have menopause.
Manopause: to get away quietly, run away sometimes, wonder WTF I did, etc.

[911 Rod]

They are all nuts. lol

[john70t]

The first rule of menopause club is to never mention it.

I suggest fans and ice packs next to the bed and practice holding your breath.
Those chocolates are keeping ya alive for now.

My older ex went through five years of elevated and I know it was difficult for her. It was difficult for me. Night flashes in the middle of winter and she'd throw off the covers while soaking the bed at least several times a night. It was hell on her sleep schedule and we ended up using separate rooms. Even during the colder days we'd be talking and she would start to 'glisten' i.e sweat like just after running a sport event. She wasn't a makeup/clothing debutante but it was probably very difficult to remain professional looking throughout the day.

Imagine going about a daily routine but your own body wants to spontaneously combust at random times, and there is nothing you can do about it.

[Z-man]

Remember, your wife has put up with your antics for many, many years. This menopause is payback...

Just remember to keep on loving on her -- and understand that this is something she has a hard time controlling. IT is only temporary - it will pass.

My wife isn't quite at hat stage in her life yet, but I saw her mom go through "the changes." I think it lasted 10+ years. We all (including my wife and her family) think at some point she was just using it as an excuse...but I digress...

[asphaltgambler]

I'll chime in here......................honestly it's been @2 years of h3ll.......................... and still going..................seriously

Almost overnight her mood and body temperature fluctuated like Dr. Jerkyl / Mr. Hyde. At the same time she lost any and all interest in any kind of physical intimacy. She could go from laughing to crying in under 2 mins all based of words coming from her lips.

She immediately started to gain weight, in spite of trying to eat healthier. She's always been very curvy, like a coke bottle, but now she has packed on @25 lbs. all in her middle / lower area and honestly looks like she's aged 30 years. Then she developed rosacea on her face where her skin was like a baby's bottom prior. I feel for her so much and want to help and fix these things but cannot. But other than praying for her daily, I'm powerless.

There are times when I come home, almost dreading asking her about her day at work, which @90% of the time.......... is awful. She then starts replaying the entire day in all its' terrible-ness line-by-line of conversation - getting louder with each sip of wine until I'm exhausted and have to make an excuse to use the restroom or walk the dog.

It has come to the point with that I rarely even ask her about her (work) day anymore. If she does happen to have a good day, she'll talk non-stop until her food gets cold sitting down to dinner.

At my last semi-annual comprehensive physical appointment, I spoke to my physician almost entirely about her and her conditions.

Part of the issue is her female doctor refuses to perform blood work specifically concentrating or her hormone levels to see what's out of whack and when this 'time' will come to an end. The reason my doctor stated her doctor refused to do hormone blood work is that if she needed hormone replacement therapy she would be obligated to prescribe a treatment regimen, which some have attributed to causing cancer.

While it seems that in times past, replacement hormone therapy for females were given in too large of doses and not monitored enough along the way. Modern medicine has (I'm told) has resolved these issues and help is as simple as a pill(s)-away.

Finally, she recently has agreed to speak her gyno doc who apparently will do the blood work and go from there.

I can't wait.............................................. ........

[stomachmonkey]

Originally Posted by asphaltgambler

She immediately started to gain weight, in spite of trying to eat healthier. She's always been very curvy, like a coke bottle, but now she has packed on @25 lbs. all in her middle / lower area

This is one of the big ones to deal with.

My wife always ate healthy. Was not a gym rat but always worked out in excess of what the average person does.

She's very frustrated and somewhat depressed now because "nothing fits" and she's actually been maintaining a better health regimen than she had at any other point in life but seems to be swimming up hill.

It's a tough one for them to deal with especially if they've taken care of themselves and done all the right things up till now.

It feels like a losing battle to them and that's not good for their headspace. I completely understand and empathize but that really is no help for my wife.

[craigster59]

Besides having the thermostat in the house set to where you could hang meat in it, it wasn't too bad. The Wife is always upbeat and positive but she did (and sometimes still does) have the "hot flashes".

She carries a small fan in her purse and has found that drinking soy milk and taking Black Cohosh helps.

[Rot 911]

asphaltgambler, You have described my wife to a T. Been going on three years now and not sure when it is going to end.

[asphaltgambler]

It's been a subject at our church men's meeting (in confidence) my frustration levels with the whole situation for her is like a wooded roller-coaster ride.....