Death Is A Part Of Life - Page 2

HobieMarty · 04-10-2024, 06:48 AM

I sent that to my Mom and she read it to the sitter and Charlie's sister and said she would read it to Charlie. He is sleeping most of the time and she thinks he does listen to what is going on around him. He wakes up for just a few minutes but then goes right back to sleep and isn't eating anymore.
I will see him tomorrow, which will be Thursday.
I was scheduled to leave for Korea Saturday morning but I decided to cancel that trip. I called the lady in charge of the trip yesterday morning and told her of what was going on, she totally understands and said I made the right decision. Charlie was excited for me to go on this trip but I just cannot leave with him in this condition, there will be other trips. I just hope and pray that Charlie can soon be at peace.

rfuerst911sc · 04-10-2024, 07:38 AM

Unfortunately or fortunately depending on your point of view cancer end of life is basically sleeping until the body gives up . Went through it with my mom and dad . Morphine or the cocktail of choice administered as needed to control pain . But that also knocks you out . I guess maybe it's the best way to go but it sure isn't quality of life .

Especially tough for surviving family and friends that remember what once was . Hard working honest individuals reduced to withering away . It is sad . But it is part of life and we deal with it the best we can .

pwd72s · 04-10-2024, 09:21 AM

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I sent that to my Mom and she read it to the sitter and Charlie's sister and said she would read it to Charlie. He is sleeping most of the time and she thinks he does listen to what is going on around him. He wakes up for just a few minutes but then goes right back to sleep and isn't eating anymore.
I will see him tomorrow, which will be Thursday.
I was scheduled to leave for Korea Saturday morning but I decided to cancel that trip. I called the lady in charge of the trip yesterday morning and told her of what was going on, she totally understands and said I made the right decision. Charlie was excited for me to go on this trip but I just cannot leave with him in this condition, there will be other trips. I just hope and pray that Charlie can soon be at peace.

A tough, yet wise, decision. Not just for Charlie's sake, but yours as well.

HobieMarty · 04-10-2024, 10:10 AM

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A tough, yet wise, decision. Not just for Charlie's sake, but yours as well.

Thank you.

Mike80911 · Mike80911's Garage

I have been working in the funeral industry for the past few months. My wife asked me the other day doesn't it get depressing seeing all of the people grieving the loss of a loved one? I told her it is actually quite the opposite I like seeing how much the person was loved and the impact they had on others. I hope when I go it will mean something to those who I have made an impact on. It seems Charlie is definitely loved and admired and that is what is comforting him in these tough times. Just let him know you love him and offer whatever support you can to make this easier for him and in the end you will know you were there for him.

KFC911 · 04-10-2024, 01:13 PM

Best to Charlie and to you Marty .... both will find your peace.... as good people do!

Rick Lee · Rick Lee's Garage

I get these stories just about every day, as I sell final expense life insurance. I had 25 death claims last year and four so far this year. In 2021 I had two die in the first month of a policy and in 2022 one die on the first day. I knew all those people. Some were in rough shape when I first wrote them, but a few were total surprises. I come home from work every day wondering why Mrs. Lee and I are so lucky and when our luck will run out.

HobieMarty · 04-11-2024, 05:50 AM

I want to thank y'all for your support and kind words during this time.
Charlie peacefully passed away this morning at home. I already had today scheduled off from work with plans of seeing him in anticipation of going on the trip to Korea. As you may know, I canceled that trip when things started to rapidly change in Charlie's condition but hoped that I would get to see him today.
I am glad that I got to talk to him last Friday. He sounded tired but was still himself and we had a good conversation. Please keep my Mom and family in your thoughts and prayers and thank you again for your support, I truly appreciate y'all.

pwd72s · 04-11-2024, 09:22 AM

God speed for Charlie, and good wishes for you...

rfuerst911sc · 04-11-2024, 11:00 AM

RIP Charlie your pain is over .

911 Rod · 911 Rod's Garage

RIP Charlie
You are a good son Marty. Sorry for your loss.

HobieMarty · 04-11-2024, 07:32 PM

Thanks Y'all. I spent the afternoon with Mom, my wife and kids went with me. It was so strange being at the house and not seeing Charlie. My Mom is a super strong person and she was okay with being home by herself, she said she needed some down time and the dogs are there to keep her company. Arrangements for Charlie's service will be made tomorrow with Mom and Charlie's sister and surviving daughter. We will miss Charlie immensely but everything is going to be okay.

berettafan · 04-12-2024, 04:23 AM

I'm sorry for your troubles OP.

I would just offer that death is the thing that makes life so valuable. Without it we'd eventually become miserable and beg for an end.

targa911S · 04-12-2024, 04:46 AM

I feel for ya. My wife Mj, as some of you know her, is dying as I type this. She is in end stage COPD and is under the care of home hospice and me. It's so hard watching someone you love so much die so slowly. She has been sick with this fatal illness for a long time but now she is completely disabled. I help her get from bed to bathroom and of course I see to her every need while managing the household. I have put my life on hold for the duration. I wish I could help her more as she is miserable. The hospice people tell me that while her head is willing to go, her heart is strong and her body won't let her go. so I'm in for the duration which may take some time. This is a really hard time in my life, but principles I learned in AA have come into play a lot. Knowing what you can control and what you need to turn over to a higher power has saved my emotional stability during this awful passage.

Noah930 · Noah930's Garage

So sorry for your loss, Marty.

astrochex · 04-12-2024, 11:01 AM

I’m sorry for your loss Marty. Its good to see you have a tight family for support for your mom.

Zeke · 04-12-2024, 12:38 PM

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I feel for ya. My wife Mj, as some of you know her, is dying as I type this. She is in end stage COPD and is under the care of home hospice and me. It's so hard watching someone you love so much die so slowly. She has been sick with this fatal illness for a long time but now she is completely disabled. I help her get from bed to bathroom and of course I see to her every need while managing the household. I have put my life on hold for the duration. I wish I could help her more as she is miserable. The hospice people tell me that while her head is willing to go, her heart is strong and her body won't let her go. so I'm in for the duration which may take some time. This is a really hard time in my life, but principles I learned in AA have come into play a lot. Knowing what you can control and what you need to turn over to a higher power has saved my emotional stability during this awful passage.

I'm thinking of you. Hang in there and be well.

rfuerst911sc · 04-12-2024, 02:26 PM

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I feel for ya. My wife Mj, as some of you know her, is dying as I type this. She is in end stage COPD and is under the care of home hospice and me. It's so hard watching someone you love so much die so slowly. She has been sick with this fatal illness for a long time but now she is completely disabled. I help her get from bed to bathroom and of course I see to her every need while managing the household. I have put my life on hold for the duration. I wish I could help her more as she is miserable. The hospice people tell me that while her head is willing to go, her heart is strong and her body won't let her go. so I'm in for the duration which may take some time. This is a really hard time in my life, but principles I learned in AA have come into play a lot. Knowing what you can control and what you need to turn over to a higher power has saved my emotional stability during this awful passage.

Very sorry you are going through this . I wish you the best .

Superman · 04-12-2024, 02:51 PM

A hospice nurse told Lois, whose mother was dying, that she has never seen a terminal patient who was scared. And now they have very good pain drugs.

My father died from pancreatic cancer.

HobieMarty · 04-12-2024, 02:56 PM

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I feel for ya. My wife Mj, as some of you know her, is dying as I type this. She is in end stage COPD and is under the care of home hospice and me. It's so hard watching someone you love so much die so slowly. She has been sick with this fatal illness for a long time but now she is completely disabled. I help her get from bed to bathroom and of course I see to her every need while managing the household. I have put my life on hold for the duration. I wish I could help her more as she is miserable. The hospice people tell me that while her head is willing to go, her heart is strong and her body won't let her go. so I'm in for the duration which may take some time. This is a really hard time in my life, but principles I learned in AA have come into play a lot. Knowing what you can control and what you need to turn over to a higher power has saved my emotional stability during this awful passage.

So sorry you are going through this also. It really sucks to see our loved ones in a state of decline. I am glad though that Charlie isn't suffering anymore and my Mom is at peace with all of this as well. It will be a huge adjustment for her but we will get through it together. The service for Charlie will be Tuesday and will be a military service.

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