pics or ban!

You can claim you were at my place the whole time. ;)

Is a one night stand worth the risk of losing what (the person in question) already has?

If it is, why is (the person in question) in that aforementioned relationship to begin with?

Old saying: Don't $hit where you eat. (tell her to quit :D)

I know you're thinking about doing it AREN'T YOU..AREN'T YOU???????

Don't Dooooo it.....

I've had so many friends that fell into that situation and I've gotta tell ya'...I can't help laughing my A$$ off listening to the ***** that they've gotten themselves into.

I try, I really, really try to keep a straight face because the friend is truely serious and worried but I can't help it.

Ever have a friend run into your office and hide under the desk because their FLING is storming through the office looking for them??

Or, they have to ask the switchboard to screen incoming calls only to have the switchboard refuse and they come to you to for help in pulling rank over facilities?????

At quitting time, 6 or 7ish have your friend waiting for you at the door so you can walk out first to make sure it's safe for them to leave????

I know it's not the mark of a true friend but I laugh all the way home....

BIG NO !

Problem is not necessarily what you do, but what they can claim you have done.

I kind of fell into a verbal / mail relation with a woman at work a few years ago. Very innocent and emotionally neutral from my standpoint. After a few months she wants more. I realize whats happening. Panic. Stop all communication (not easy on the same job). Start to relax a bit after a few weeks - thinking its over.

One night my spouse gets a telephone call..

I spent over a year paying for that, repeatedly trying to explain and deny (truthfully). All but destroyed our relationship.

DON´T ! You can (maybe) control yourself. But you can´t control her.

Never screw the crew!

A good friend recently succumed to a very similar situation.

His life has been shattered.

Now divorced, living in an apartment away from his kids. He would do anything today to be able to roll back the clock and have a second chance.

It's hard to see a good friend go through what he has gone through. My wife gets an extra hug tonight.

Disregard anything Chris says cause he knows Esther will read what he posts. And anyway Esther is hot!:D

Amen to that. I have seen Esther. Chris is one lucky guy.

A virgin? Who needs that headache. Way too much energy involved. Way too much. Can you even imagine the tedious phone calls after. Awful. Run away.

Don't fish off the company pier.

Bang away like a fly screen door in a hurricane!

The male in me says "go for it"

Clearly, she trusts you enough\cares about you enough\thinks that highly of you enough to want to (pardon the vulgarity) "give it up" for you. She is an adult, this isn't some teenage spur of the moment ideal

This is significant - if you do, she will remember you and the event for the rest of her life....

The married guy in me says "you are in a relationship, don't screw that up"

sitting here for the better part of 10 minutes pondering an answer, if you aren't serious about forming a relationship with this woman, or at least offering the potential for a relationship with this woman, I wouldn't do it - that is too much of a gift to squander away on a one night stand like that.

//old fashoned I guess

AFJ

I don't think I could stand the post-coital phone calls.

I'm 50 ish(ahem) and single again. I've gotten involved with the younger ladies more than once. Its very flattering and the sex is OMG I'm gonna lose my farkin' mind! Tho' none have claimed to be virgins ALL have turned out to be nuts to a certain degree. And rather needy.

If you value the relationship you're in RUN. Not for any touchy feely , new age, 80s guy kinda sheet, but for your own sake.

If the current relationship isn't gettin' it for you , turn her loose and fool around with the young one.

But if you do turn the young one loose PM me. I am experienced in these matters.:D

Some of these comments are just plain funny! Good stuff!

Anyway, seriously, RUN from this situation.

I've watched a good friend/co-worker "fish off the company pier" many times over the past 7 years and he gets his life trashed every time. The women use him emotionally and then flush him like a used tampon. However, I'm surprised he hasn't been slapped with a sexual harrassment lawsuit yet. He's back at it now nailin' a 14 year younger co-worker who's only been at our company for a few months and I don't trust her motives... Here we go again. It's the same story over and over.

Another very good friend that I've known for over 20 years is a CEO. He got hit with with a sexual harrassment suit from a woman at his company that he barely even knew (she did it just to get cash) and never even so much as glanced at her, much less harrassed her. It's an expensive lawsuit that the courts take very seriously. Think about what the attorney fees are before 'going fishin' off the co. pier'.

Get the Hell out of Dodge on this one. RUN.

Jay
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I have a buddy that was a bartender, he hooked up with nearly every waitress at his restraunt. Work became, uh, awkward, especially after his older manager became obsessed with him. Not really what you want to see when you open your blinds, your manager standing at the window. Also gets tough when none of your female co-workers will talk to you. Now he's married to probably the most conservative girl that I have ever met, and happy as can be.

Larry Kroger ("Pinto") from "Animal House":

Larry's evil conscience: Fuch her. Fuch her brains out. Suck her tits, squeeze her buns. You know she wants it.
Larry's good conscience: For shame! Lawrence, I'm surprised at you!
Larry's evil conscience: Aw, don't listen to that jack-off. Look at those gazongas. You'll never get a better chance.
Larry's good conscience: If you lay one finger on that poor sweet helpless girl, you'll despise yourself forever. ...I'm proud of you, Lawrence.
Larry's evil conscience: You homo.

Point her toward this discussion maybe?