Would you go to a ghey bar?
 

Things seem slow on the board so let's what I can stir up.

One of the lady friends I occasionally date has a long time male gay friend and when he is in town they get together. So we are talking on the phone and she says something like "Ray is in town and we are going out. He's a great guy and I would really like you to meet him but we are probably going to a gay bar and you probably wouldn't want to do that". I was a little taken aback, I consider myself a modern, sophisticated, fellow and I'm certainly not a homophobe.

Now before you guys go all brokeback mountain on me...

A. A gay bar is not my idea of a place to hang out.
B. I have never been in a gay bar.
C. I would be with a lady friend.
D. I hear that hetero women like to hang out in gay bars, I presume so they won't be bothered by guys hitting on them.
E. The gay guys I have and do work with seem to know who the "breeders" are leave us alone.

It is one evening out of your life, and you are going with a lady.

Go.

AFJ

Agreed with AFJ.

My ex-wife had two gay friends. They did her hair and were very nice guys. We went out with them a couple of times and had a great time. The bar was busy and all the guys danced with my wife until she could not stand, so she had fun. The guys knew I liked ladies so did not hit on me so it was fine.

Try it... just do not make a habit of it! :)

Ditto. Good times, good people.

I've been to a zillion gay bars. And unless you are going to a bar specifically to "score", all bars are basically the same...people stand around and drink and talk...unless it is a "piano bar". Then they sing show tunes. ;)

I've been to one, once long ago. It was supposed to be a really hoppin' bar, and it was "straight night". I'm not a homophobe. My buddies didn't tell me until we were almost there. The line was huge, there were plenty of straight people, but they were still the minority. It was, at the time, the coolest bar in Ybor City (part of Tampa FL). My roommate couldn't handle it, so we didn't stay long. For us, at the time, it just didn't make sense, we were in our early 20's and pretty much always looking for girls.

Now THAT'S just disgusting!
:D

i go all the time....well, not all the time, but alot. not fair since i live in san fran and you cant shake a stick, and not hit a gay bar. it is just a bar. i have more issues going into a jazz club..yuck, jazz! not a fan of jazz. i am not a homophobe or so egotistical that i think everyone wants to bang me...

BTDT a few times with girlfriend in tow, usually way after hours- and it's never my suggestion.

There are a lot of hot chicks that hang out in those places..

rjp

No particular interest in going. The entire gay scene doesn't hold much appeal to me.

Of course I have neighbors that are gay but they're also very rude, self-righteous, snobbish and inconsiderate. Add to that the manner that they carry themselves (kind of a pompous sassy swagger) and it doesn't do much to make me sympathetic to their cause.

I've known a couple of other gay folks in the past and generally they're okay (this current batch isn't typical I don't think). I'm usually pretty much "live and let live" - their life, their choice - doesn't matter to me. But I'm not really in a hurry to embrace their lifestyle or financially support it either.

The ReBar here in Seattle used to be known as a gay bar. I've been there a few times when I was younger and never noticed any "gay" activity. There were occasionally girls dancing with other girls but you get that pretty much at any bar where there is dancing.

Of course you must keep in mind that this was during the period I refer to as the lost years...;)

eeh, the ReBar - the nicer you dress, the more the cover charge is...You have dudes that make Marilyn Mansion look like a supermodel in there..

The doorman asked me if I had a Visa last time we attended...(probably 7 years ago).

the place is a dump.. ;)

rjp

Correct but the problem is that they do not like guys, so it is not a "target rich environment" for us straight guys!

I asked a pair of hotties once who were in attendance:

"IT'S CUZ GAY MEN ARE FIIINNNNNEE!!!"

rjp

Gay is a disease and its f'ing gross how much attention they get. These days everybody is trying to cater to them and some of them have some serious attitude. Everytime I see Ellen and Rosie(the hog) on TV I wanna puke. I just saw a gay chick at the auto parts store this morning ...She looked like a damn lumber jack....she was NASTY.

The last place I wanna be is in a bar full of them.... So No I would not go

As well as the girls do not get hit upon by the guys there. Our flight attendents go out partying with the gay guys on the planes because they can have fun and do not need to worry about fending off the guys.

I used to DJ in the gay clubs. I never had any problems. rjp is right, there are some VERY hot chick in the gay bars, and they are NOT gay for the most part.

Hey, I never said I liked the place. My EX drug me and a couple of friends there a couple of times over 10 years ago. Haven't been back since.

Ditto how I got there- then we used to make it a stop on the Saturday tour every now and then...

13 Coins afterwards to fend off the buzz...

Nowadays I just play sick and go home @ midnight...

rjp

I was always more of a Dick's guy...not that there's anything wrong with that...

Hey, why aren't you at JW's Swap?