What would you do?
 

Short version... I am seeing someone, it's going well I think, then I see her out, and she is kissing, (not a peck) a guy that I don't recognize. I say I would break arms off and doors down, but my pals are saying to just let it go. I haven't talked to her yet. I know I don't know you guys much but any advice?

Nail her and dump her after the sex.

Break up with her, find another girl.
No breaking anything.

Latest theory of female empowerment.* Date at least three guys at once. Dump the guy at the bottom and add another. One rule - no sex. Kissing is o.k. Do it for a while and Mr. Right rises to the top. It sucks if your dumped - but I wish my sister had employed such a system to find a mate...

Then again - if you are in a deeper relationship - well that stinks. But still don't break anything.

*Disclaimer here. I did not read this in Cosmo. I read it in the local paper on the way to work.

Don't confrunt her. Don't say anything, don't do anything just ignore her. Dump her without telling her. That will kill her. Don't give her a chance to explain anything to make herself fell better....

Pass
 

Damaged goods.

Look for cold sores.

Pelican OT Line #124.

This thread is worthless without pictures!

Difficult. Are you certain she doesn't have a twin sister?

It depends how much she means to you and whether you feel you'd be able to trust her again I suppose.
If she means a lot to you then see what she has to say about it. You might work it out and move forward.
If shes just just another girlfriend and you don't see it going anywhere then turn around and walk away.

I agree with not breaking anything. Don't do something you regret later.
Hope you get it worked out.

Bang her like a screen door in a hurricane, and then immediately tell her what you saw and summarily dump her ass. Extra points for 'missing' and hitting the wrong orifice.

OTOH, you didn't qualify the relationship you currently have. If you're not already at the physical level, then you probably don't have any grounds for being pissed.

It doesn't make me a "man" to get rid of her and I don't need to do any revenge or play a game with anyone's head. Chicks are whacked, you're right. I won't talk to her until Sat. anyways which is good for me to chill out. I already broke arms once, I'm trying to avoid that again.

Yeah and after he dumped her, she cries RAPE. My ex was like that. CRAZY

No, but it makes you a world-class pussy if you stick around.

The only way to handle this and maintain any degree of self respect is to stop answering her calls. No fights, no tantrums, no explanations. Man up.

:eek:
Wide, your killing me. http://www.pelicanparts.com/support/.../smileysex.gif

Then don't get yourself in a situation where that might be the outcome. That would be stupid.

Just make sure you film it then. You know. . . to exonerate yourself.

And e-mail a copy to me for safekeeping.

How do you figure?

RUN FOREST RUN!!!

If I may ask how old are you?

Sound like a lady I dated a few years back... always had lots of *friends* and one guy she was boinking... as one guy would get sick of her sheet... one of her *friends* would become her new FB... and if you dared imply she was queuing up future boyfriends she would freak out. :rolleyes:

You have invested recourses in this woman. You have the right to hear her explanation - and I think you should. There is a fraction of possibility that there has been some kind of misunderstanding, but more importantly - you will feel less bitter after having it all out with her. Possibly enhanced with some of the more hands on advice above.

WTF? All this advice without knowing what the parameters of the relationship are? Perhaps "thegeck" has only dated her once? Or twice? What's the real story, Rick?

The best advice by far..

Yea but Widebody's advise sounds a lot more fun... especially as he strokes it in saying "thats for your new boyfriend!" :)

Bang her BEST FRIEND! (hopefully it's a female!) ;-)

Indeed, that's why I asked how old he is for starters... high school, college, career guy, etc.



Dunno about that... the woman I referred to had hit forty and showed no signs of stopping the bedroom rotation routine. Not that there is anything wrong with that as long as that is the kind of lifestyle you enjoy. She wasn't and was constantly riding the emotional roller coaster of looking for her "true love" and breaking up with the latest "Mr. Right".

dump her and live free

+1000

Normally, I'm against vindictive head games, but you gotta teach a lesson once in a while. She will invent causes for the break up far worse than anything you could say.

I had a female friend in college who wanted to keep me on her permanent DH list.

Problem was, she didn't want me to date anyone else, just to be there when "she needed me".

I thought we were good, platonic (most of the time) friends. We would talk about people we were interested in. Turns out, if I mentioned another girl to her, she would go behind my back and tell the girl I was abusive, into cocaine, had HIV...anything to get them to run screaming from me. Turns out I was single most of college because of her antics...

C'mon, guys, lighten up. It was probably just her brother.

Bang her best female friend, just for good measure!

Most men and women who I know that live a promiscuous lifestyle are emotional basket cases. Some hide it better than others. Most really, truly want to stop the revolving door of bedfellows and settle down, but don't know how to stop the cycle. Some are addicted to new lovers, some have impossibly high standards for long-term relationships, some cannot maintain even the appearance of fidelity.

Yep... that would be her :(

Sad too because otherwise she was very intelligent and funny... I got the bright idea that I could help her out (and maybe get laid).

In the history of bad ideas it was a VERY bad idea.

Clearly you are under the impression that you are in a relationship. Has she led you to believe that you two are in a relationship?

If so:
Leave without another breath. Not to be vindictive, but just tear it like a bandaid. Why continue? People will not change something as basic as this- if an adult cheats, thats just who they are. There's no "I was drunk" or "He's just an old friend" or anything like that.

If not:
This means you are F-Buddies. So, you should realize that this comes with the territory. If you can get over it and continue being F-Buddies, cool. If are CURRENTLY F-Buddies, and now you want to make it more, make that clear, and if she's down then cool. If not, leave.

Do NOT do a vindictive banging, followed by a "GOTCHA! YOU'RE DUMPED! Sorry bout throwing it in the pooper!". You are risking all types of psychotic nonsense- "He raped me!". Imaging throwing THAT fiasco into your life. Sex is simply not worth all of that.

Also-

Chances are the guy in question has no idea about you, so its pretty uncool to break HIS arms. And even if he did, he's not the one in a "contract of sorts" with you. Your lady is. She is the one who wronged you. He is just a douche and certainly not worth assault charges.

WTF...... move to another city brotha...... !!!!!

a city that only has ONE skirt in it is NOT a city to be in.

:)

Re: What would you do?
 

Maybe for you, but must not be too true for her.

Cut it off.

Wow, aren't you the ******* stud. So you want to break the arms of a guy the girl is kissing? What did he do that doesn't come naturally? Think she has told him about you? Grow up.

True enough, but what if it was the girl's arms that he broke...

not worth it... if that would be the case....Imagine how many armless women would be running arround. ... Half the WallMart parking lot would be handicap spots....

No ones arms need be broken. Either break it off in her or just walk away and not say a word.

Life is too short worrying about one woman when there are thousands of them out there to choose from.

Bang her mom... :D

That will really mess with her head. :p

It's 2007 set her to the curb via text or email!!!