What do you do, when you can't get over someone?

[M.D. Holloway]

Originally posted by slodave
Mike, I don't have a working T.V. A couple of people have offered me an old one, maybe I should take them up on the offer. That way I could watch DVD's. I refuse to get cable or dish right now. There is never anything on and therefore a $70.- a month waste. I would need more than a case of beer

Jeezus Chisto man! No working tube! No wonder your all down and shyt.

OK, maybe a few cases of beer then. The pizza and beer work - your mind/body is stressed and when you are stressed the mind/body needs fat and alchohol - you will also need good ol fashion guy art. It feeds the hole in your soul. Boogie and Dean fit the bill. Some say that the Duke will do it as well but that just makes me want to go shoot something so that might not be the best thing at this point.

Get freakin tube Dude!

[legion]

My 2¢:

You are being strung along. You are being kept at arm's length (or further) as a backup...in case something else she has doesn't work out. You will never move beyond "backup" status again. In ladder theory lingo, you have jumped to the lower ladder.

I had a friend in college whom his ex strung him along for two years. He couldn't get over the relationship (which may well have taken those two years for him) because it still wasn't over.

Stop all contact immediately. Don't give explanations, just stop. Spend your time making yourself the man you want to be.

[M.D. Holloway]

Originally posted by slodave
I changed my diet a month or so ago. I have been reading calorie charts non-stop as well. Going overboard really. No real junk food to speak of. My parents have a really fancy scale that tells you too much info and is a pain to program - I just wanted to weigh myself. The thing told me I have 10% body fat. I have to get on the scale again to double check, but if I do, maybe I should order the Domino's special. I dig Domino's!

OK Slo, its time to get real here. Put the freakin scale away - save it when you have a son and use it for a Pinewood derby car!

It is time be be a guy. Guys don't give a shyt about any of that stuff. Guys are all about simplicity and quick satisfaction. Focus on the body fat stuff when your in-line. Right now we need to grow a set back and here is how to do it...get a tube, a few Za's, some cases and a stack of vids. Do it alone but keep your bros abreast (he he, he said breast...) of whats happening.

[M.D. Holloway]

Originally posted by legion
My 2¢:

You are being strung along. You are being kept at arm's length (or further) as a backup...in case something else she has doesn't work out. You will never move beyond "backup" status again. In ladder theory lingo, you have jumped to the lower ladder.

I had a friend in college whom his ex strung him along for two years. He couldn't get over the relationship (which may well have taken those two years for him) because it still wasn't over.

Stop all contact immediately. Don't give explanations, just stop. Spend your time making yourself the man you want to be.

Now that is growing a set! 10^100

[slodave]

Originally posted by LubeMaster77

Get freakin tube Dude!

My T.V. died last August/September, while working on the 911. Was not a good time for it to fail. It was a nice 32" Sony Trinitron. I'm still paying off the Porsche CC damage. I was planning to upgrade in the near future to a flat panel, but was hoping the Sony was going to last a couple more years. I really can't afford to buy the flat panel right now.

Regarding the weight, I have not weighed myself in years and decided to jump on my parents. I just wanted to see how much I weighed. I had to feed it my age, height, etc... in order to be able to stand on it. As for the calories, I really needed to change. I was on a diet of Taco Bell, McDonald's, Jack in the box, etc. and have been for a couple of years. I really feel better these days now that I don't eat that. Excuses aside, health is important.

Well, one of my fish is getting lucky tonight

[pwd72s]

Originally posted by slodave



I don't think I would be as torn over this, if we both decided things were not going to work, but since I was blindsided by it, it's a different story. Adoption comes into play as well. I was rejected at birth, no post natal bonding for me. Studies show that this affects children and how they deal with rejection.

Dave

Ahhh Dave, gimme a break here! I'm the product of a Bay area whore and a Marine who didn't make it back from the South Pacific. I was born November of '43. Not one effing thing unique about my story...or yours! The people who adopted and raised me were a whole lot better than I deserved.

You're just looking for "poor me" psychobabble excuses. Suck it up, buy a porn mag and a roll of paper towels. This dry spell will end.

NEVER lose your head over a little piece of tail...dig? I'm done with this one...oh yeah, I am.

[M.D. Holloway]

Originally posted by slodave
My T.V. died last August/September, while working on the 911. Was not a good time for it to fail. It was a nice 32" Sony Trinitron. I'm still paying off the Porsche CC damage. I was planning to upgrade in the near future to a flat panel, but was hoping the Sony was going to last a couple more years. I really can't afford to buy the flat panel right now.

Regarding the weight, I have not weighed myself in years and decided to jump on my parents. I just wanted to see how much I weighed. I had to feed it my age, height, etc... in order to be able to stand on it. As for the calories, I really needed to change. I was on a diet of Taco Bell, McDonald's, Jack in the box, etc. and have been for a couple of years. I really feel better these days now that I don't eat that. Excuses aside, health is important.

Well, one of my fish is getting lucky tonight

Slo,
Set your sights a bit lower - Flat Screen, Plasma...tubes for playas. One word bro...Wal-Mart. You can get a great 32" for under $200. Crack that plastic plate that has been sleep'n in your billfold and break that cherry on a Memorex or ESA at Wally World.

Go Slo Go!

[legion]

Yep.

Just get an inexpensive CRT.

Save your money for an HDTV for the future.

[elwood-914]

Get a TV, and a pet.
After 19 years of marriage she said good bye. I was depressed.....I found new friends who treat me like family. I have never been happier. My 'family' loves me more than my ex-wife did. But it is better now. Hang in there, stop contact and get some friends. I have more female friends than male. I go out to dinner and movies with any of them on occation.
I hope things get better for you. Time and friends are your best bet. Good luck.

[slodave]

elwood-914: I have two English Parakeets, one veiled chameleon (has a nice eye infection, not fun), four African cichlid fish and one tiger strip algae eater. I live in a rental town home and am already pushing the limit, as this place says "No pets allowed". The managers have been really cool. Cats and dogs are out of the question.

Dave

[K. Roman]

thread is useless without pics...

[elwood-914]

OK skip the pet thing but loose the contact.

[slodave]

Originally posted by K. Roman
thread is useless without pics...

Dude, I could quote some rap here, but I don't like big butts!

[Sonic dB]

You know...Ive been reading through this thread and all of the
great and helpful responses...and it occurs to me that the answer
simply lies within you sloDave:

Do you want to take steps to improve your life? Do you wish
to put yourself into a position where you will never feel this
****ty again? Do you wish to take control of your thoughts and
emotions? Do you wish to not be in a position of regret but rather
be in a position of strength, fun and happiness?

If the answer is YES (which I hope it is), then take the good
advice given here, condense it to what works for you and put it
to use ASAP!

If the answer is NO, and you are just here looking for sympathy...
well, perhaps therapy is the next step.

* People are Victims of their OWN Bullshi-.

Whether they realize this...choose to own up to it or not, such is
True.

So sak up and move forward...even if you fall...fall forward...

But definitely take chances to CHANGE...because what brought
you this point HAS NOT WORKED....and you need to change your
position in life, your mental disposition and how you view yourself
and the world around it.

Ive been there dude...however since 1995, Ive pretty much been out of
that rut.... what got me out?

TM techniques, and studying various theraputic mental philosophies.... start by reading "Phychocybernetics" by Maxwell
Martz...and then go through the Tony Robbins tapes, Zig Ziegler..
Wayne Dyer, "The Secret" etc... its all good and all based on the same principal:

WE HAVE TO SEE IT and BELIEVE it CAN HAPPEN...before it actually
CAN happen...

Get it?

You seem like a Great guy...but the Pity Party has to end now.
Find the way / Method to take control of your mind and shape
your mind to control your future destiny.

Break this Freaking never ending Cycle of BS crap that continuously manifests itself in your life.

You need to manifest your future destiny and the only way to do
this is to condition your mind to visual what you want, clearly and
definitely, create the plan of action to get you there and have the
discipline and will power to make it happen.

You will not fail if you do this. You are almost certain to get part of
your dream... which is much better than no dream at all.

Do it.

Good luck and God bless.

[Nostril Cheese]

For Slo

[Shuie]