Rick, the thing is. shes not like a bum or anything. Has been in school full time since she was 17. Besides working part time too. Never in any kind of trouble. You are talking about the model child here. Just landed her dream job after getting her Masters.
I think some are reading into this a little too much. Like I said before it was just something pointed out to me by someone and had me concerned for a bit. But now after reading some of you guys replies, i dont think its a big deal anymore.

A model child doesn't come onto a step parent. And if she lived somewhere else, you wouldn't have this problem at all.

Guys, once again , may I stress she has never outright come-on to me. Not in the least bit. Maybe I worded my original post wrong, but that is not the case.

Hitched,

It's also possible that she's just coming into her own sexuality now, though it seems a bit late. I suspect that she may be "trying out her moves" on you because you're safe and non-threatening.

Well, it really depends on how many parts orders you place...

where did he say he doesn't have the same weakness for the female form that we all share?

pay attention sometime and you might learn that the entire purpose of Jesus' death on the cross was to save us from our sins.

a hypocrite would think it but claim he doesn't.

Either tell her to cool it, move out or do a tag team.......

She's just flirting. Some 20 somethings flirt all the time. Sorry to burst your bubble but she does it with lots of other guys too. The problem isn't her behavior.

You're 41 and not used to attention from a hot 20 something. Secretly, you are flattered even if you won't admit it to yourself. You want her to be attracted to you, it's good for the ego. This makes you feel good, and if she wasn't your step you wouldn't feel conflicted.

If you don't reciprocate nothing will ever happen. Don't confront her unless she does or says something direct. Confronting her could turn bad. Just don't encourage the behavior, and you know you have been because you secretly like it.

Or you could hit it.

best thing to do is to IGNORE the flirting, if she does anything in front of her mom/your wife give more attention to your wife.

make damn sure that your never alone with her. if she comes home and your home... get on the phone with your wife.

DO NOT PISS HER OFF! do not bring it up to her or your wfe.

good time to wire some cammeras around the house !

thankfully my step kids are DUDES!

i am pretty sure i know who our hitched is... anyone else? head count.

Was obvious from the first post.

No idea who he is, nor do I care. It's none of my business.

Thanks! I had actually looked at that link before (evidently, I wasn't signed on at the time), and didn't see it the "unsubscribe", but once I signed on, it's obvious.

Haven't tried to figure it out (but it probably wouldn't be too difficult)...none of my business. I would hope that if someone does know, that they would keep it to themselves :). Here is the key point to this thread imo:

"...Like I said before it was just something pointed out to me by someone and had me concerned for a bit. But now after reading some of you guys replies, i dont think its a big deal anymore...."

IMO, it never was a big deal, and Hitched1 should have known better than to listen to the female that "pointed it out" :).

Yep.

Catch 22 times your social security number. No way to win. Confront the daughter, she will deny, deny, deny. Bring up the issue to the wife, she will confront the daughter who will deny, deny, deny. Either way both will end up aligned against you and you will have become a pervert of the highest order.

Best advice, home alone approach. Eyes closed, hands over ears, yell.

+1

Please explain the hypocrite comment.

I better get busy. I'd hate to think he wasted the effort.