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Had to check Dad into hospice today

Too many system failures going on at one time. Could we have kept him alive? Oh yeah if we hooked him up on every machine in the hospital. We just lost Mom in December, now him and I will be an orphan. At least we moved back home a year ago so we could be with them both. We just didn't think all this would happen so soon. My sister and I made the decision to let him go in peace and with his privacy and dignity. He would have wanted it that way. It was the hardest yet easiest decision I have ever made. Do I want to see him go? No. Would I want to be a living lab experiment? Not on your life. Neither would he. He was a proud, hard working man, WW II vet, and gave up things for himself so his kids could prosper. My Dad, my hero, my mentor. Saying goodbye is never easy. I told him that I loved him and that he was the best Dad any man could ever ask for.

Now we just wait for his great getting up morning.

I think I am on the outside edge of what I am capable of emotionally handling. I have lost a friend or loved one every 2 1/2 months for a year now. I just feel numb to it now, like combat.

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Old 10-11-2007, 05:34 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear this.

At least you got to help him go more with his wishes.
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Sorry to hear, but sounds like you're doing the right thing. But remember, you're never an orphan. Your parents are always a part of you. And you carry them forward.

It seems crappy now but no feeling is final.
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A good son, a kind man, what more could a Father want,
I'm sure he is quite proud of you both..
Hope you see the some Sunshine soon.

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I have no doubts about it being the right thing to do. Getting there was the toughest part. An orphan? Well I DO have you guys.
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I told him that I loved him and that he was the best Dad any man could ever ask for.
Music to his ears...any mans ear. We should all be so fortunate.
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I hope I made him proud in the end. It was not always that way. I'm a child of the 60's and we had our falling outs.
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An orphan? Well I DO have you guys.
at least you haven't lost your sense of humor
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Sorry to hear this, may he find comfort.
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Having lost some friends and family over the last few years, I recently realized how those that were sick or aged had reached a point of peace and contentment with their impending demise. It's almost as if WE are the selfish ones who do not want to let them go. I'm sure He is very proud to have raised a son and daughter that respected him so much to do what you have done.

I know I have posted this before, but "A life is like the flickering flame of a candle, eventually extinguished. But a soul is like a star, glowing forever, infinite."

Prayers to your Dad, Sis and your family Targa.
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harsh, hope they keep him comfortable. I could never work hospice full time, though I have seen many hospice patients
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Thanks to all of you. Strange to think that I could find such consolation in people I have never seen. Yet to me you all seem like old friends.

Thank you all for being here for me.
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harsh, hope they keep him comfortable. I could never work hospice full time, though I have seen many hospice patients
The people I met with today seemed to see it as a ministry, I have never met such gentle people.
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Sorry to hear this. We lost my parents about 16/17 years ago. It gets better with time but takes a while. You never forget but sometimes you reach for the phone and realize that you cannot call them anymore.

Spend time with him. When he is not here any longer you will be happy you did.
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"A life is like the flickering flame of a candle, eventually extinguished. But a soul is like a star, glowing forever, infinite."

If you don't mind, I think I will be using that statement soon.
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Spend time with him. When he is not here any longer you will be happy you did.
I intend to. I cancelled two shows for this weekend already. My drummer just lost his Dad too, they understand.
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The people I met with today seemed to see it as a ministry, I have never met such gentle people.
Like I say, I would not be equal to the task. I know a few of them, like angels, seriously
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yes angels...that's good. I agree.
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At a loss for words right now. i hope you find some peace and better times ahead.
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So hard to lose the people we love. Deepest sympathies.

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