Lack of fear, facial scars and little kids

lendaddy · 06-12-2008, 05:30 PM

My two year old is fearless and it shows via his scars. He just today got his second facial wound (a one inch split above his lip). His first was a two inch split on his forehead that didn't heal too well (scar). Someone asked my wife if we were having him seen by a plastic surgeon and of course I "harumphed" that idea. Boys and scars are cool right

Anyway, am I dismissing this too quickly? I imagine it's too late now anyway but if he sticks to his schedule he'll have another in 2-3 weeks so I should plan ahead

pwd72s · 06-12-2008, 05:35 PM

Perhaps you should have a talk with this "accident prone" kid???? Scars are one thing. But death is another???

lendaddy · 06-12-2008, 05:40 PM

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Perhaps you should have a talk with this "accident prone" kid???? Scars are one thing. But death is another???

He loves to run and that's the cause of most of it. Today was in the park and he went down into a picnic table. What can you do? The first was in the dining room where he tripped and caught the edge of a chair. Aside from telling my two year old to never fall next to hard objects I'm not sure what I can do

Tim Hancock · 06-12-2008, 05:40 PM

Pain is only temporary...pride is forever!

pwd72s · 06:15 PM

Youth brings on the feeling of immortality...sad, but true. I have no idea about how to talk to the kid...I just wish him a long & happy life. Perhaps time, combined with experience, will be enough? Len? A relative of Cindy's just died...at age 5. Playing tag with his brother...running, laughing, lookimg behind. He ran right into a rocky ravine...they rushed him to the hospital, but internal injuries were too massive.

Man...life just sucks at times.

jyl · jyl's Garage

My son fell into corners a lot when 2-4 y/o. I used to threaten him with having to wear a full-face helmet for the rest of his life.

He has a small scar in one eyebrow, it is not very noticeable and I'm not worried about that. But when his next wound crossed his lip, we were more concerned - that can make for a notable and unattractive scar. healed okay but we would have gone to a cosmetic surgeon otherwise. Scar on forehead - hmmm, if its going to be notable when he's grown up, I would try to do something about it.

I don't think there is much you can do about his accident rate, at his age. Watch him more closely, point out and steer him away from dangerous behaviour. I don't believe in smothering the house with cushions, but particularly sharp corners and tripping hazards should go away. But you don't want a timid weenie. Eventually he will get better coordinated, more thinking, etc. Hopefully with both eyes.

masraum · 06-12-2008, 06:18 PM

I suspect that a scar received when you're 2 will be negligible by the time your 18-20 if not earlier. I wouldn't worry about it.

lendaddy · 06-12-2008, 06:23 PM

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I suspect that a scar received when you're 2 will be negligible by the time your 18-20 if not earlier. I wouldn't worry about it.

This is my thinking as well. If he grows into a fashionista he can pay for his own nip tucks

Shaun @ Tru6 · 06-12-2008, 06:29 PM

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This is my thinking as well. If he grows into a fashionista he can pay for his own nip tucks

did you ever get him that Dora the Explorer bike?

time will tell.

berettafan · 06-12-2008, 06:45 PM

my little guy has all manor of scrapes on his legs and face. i am a safety nazi myself but he is one active little feller. my biggest fear is neck injuries.

plastic surgery though? might as well fit him for a skirt while you're at it. i'd be more concerned about complications than the original scrape

Paul that is a horrible story. It is of course every parent's nightmare. God bless that family. Some of my friends say i'm a wuss about safety concerns and that my little buddy will learn quicker of i let him hurt himself a bit more. I just can't get on board with that. BUT a few scrapes/bumps will do nothing to diminish my handsome boy's appeal to the fairer sex when he is older.

bell · bell's Garage

i was 6 or 7 when i received my first scar.......it's at the corner of my left eye, we were throwing bricks and one caught me on the side of the head when gravity took over......
second major scar is a 5" #7 on the top of my head, caught it on the steel rod hook thing which keeps the top bunk together when i jumped headfirst into the bottom bunk.....had something like 100 stitches, i forgot all about it until i shaved my head for the first time years ago and saw it, chicks dig scars

he'll learn his balance, if he doesn't come around maybe see an ear specialist as my nephew had problems with balance until they figured out it was something in his ears, they did the tubes and he was fine, he was 4 or 5 iirc.

livi · 06-13-2008, 04:06 AM

Boys will be boys. Some more than others. As long as you keep him from obvious deadly hazards let him be himself.

lendaddy · 06-13-2008, 04:15 AM

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Boys will be boys. Some more than others. As long as you keep him from obvious deadly hazards let him be himself.

Thanks Markus, he's just a crazy little fella and he keeps us on our toes. I tell him to slow down and he looks at me and says "but I jus' want to run dad".

Anyway, I imagine these scars will fade well. The one on his forehead had me concerned as it opened up a bit after they pulled the stitches but now it's not so bad anymore. Hopefully this one heals better right off the bat.

TerryBPP · 06-13-2008, 04:21 AM

I have more scars than most, I was just like your son. When I was 3 yrs old I slipped on a hammer and fell cheek 1st onto a jagged concrete block. 13 stitches. Still have a scar and women ask me about it frequently, they think its sexy.

Chicks dig scar, plain and simple.

You get him plastic surgery now and before you know it he will be wanting a nose job.

livi · 06-13-2008, 04:49 AM

About the scars, they take a long time to heal completely. The final result will usually not be evident for several years. In any case, I would definitely not recommend any plastic surgery until he is grown up and then for himself to decide whether he wants to look like a cool Pirate of the Caribbean or a baby face.

onewhippedpuppy · 06-13-2008, 04:55 AM

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Boys will be boys. Some more than others. As long as you keep him from obvious deadly hazards let him be himself.

Amen. No stiches with my now 4 year old, but plenty of bruises. Managed to flip himself off of his 4-wheeler the other day, just laughed it off. That's my boy!

Scary, but my 1 year old daughter may be even worse. My son was a climber, but knew when to be cautious. This little ***** knows no fear.

lendaddy · 06-13-2008, 05:04 AM

Yep, my oldest is much more controlled (he's four). After thinking it through last night another point hit me; They would have to put him under to do P/S and there's no way I'd do that for cosmetic stuff at this age. He's been under twice for ear surgery already and will be again soon (his ear tubes didn't heal right). That's more than enough.

livi · 06-13-2008, 05:22 AM

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He's been under twice for ear surgery already and will be again soon (his ear tubes didn't heal right). That's more than enough.

Just out of curiosity. I presume the ear tubes are because he has had a lot of ear infections. In USA I believe you have Pneumocock vaccine in the standard program. Right? Even if you do, this age group has a very individually maturing immune defense system. Some kids have suboptimal levels of antibodies against for example the different strains of Pneumocock bacteria, making them more susceptible to for example ear infections. Vaccinated or not. It might be a thought to test his antibody levels against these bacteria. If they turn out to be low, revaccineation could be beneficial.

Also, if everything else fails, we use antibiotic prophylactics in small daily doses for a period during the pre school age.

Just some thoughts, as I see this every day.

lendaddy · 06-13-2008, 05:34 AM

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Just out of curiosity. I presume the ear tubes are because he has had a lot of ear infections. In USA I believe you have Pneumocock vaccine in the standard program. Right? Even if you do, this age group has a very individually maturing immune defense system. Some kids have suboptimal levels of antibodies against for example the different strains of Pneumocock bacteria, making them more susceptible to for example ear infections. Vaccinated or not. It might be a thought to test his antibody levels against these bacteria. If they turn out to be low, revaccineation could be beneficial.

Also, if everything else fails, we use antibiotic prophylactics in small daily doses for a period during the pre school age.

Just some thoughts, as I see this every day.

Yes, he had ear infections but not anymore. His tubes fell out but the holes didn't heal all the way. Now they are talking grafts on the drum

Given that his forehead didn't heal well I'm wondering if he's a "slow healer".

I honestly don't recall which vaccinations he's had (there were so many), but I'll definitely bring it up, thanks.

Rikao4 · 06-13-2008, 05:41 AM

he will grow, so the scar on forehead..
will someday be just below his hairline.

Rika