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911Rob · 911Rob's Garage

You're living the dream Joe! Cheers.

do what makes you happy

I can't relate on any level fwiw.

Joeaksa · 12-14-2009, 04:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Chocaholic

After all this bandwidth...it seems our Joe has already made his decision. Not a wise one...but a decision none-the-less.

Perhaps you could have asked this question BEFORE you threw away the rubbers.....Just sayin'.

You are assuming an awful lot. Just did not tell everything at the top.

Have not made any decision but its pretty clear that having a kid at this age with someone that you are not living with, and married to, is not a good call.

Never threw the rubbers away, was in uniform and ready to head out the door and she forced me to get back into bed and raped me. Have to admit that it did put a smile on my face the rest of the day...

Joeaksa · 12-14-2009, 04:33 AM

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Originally Posted by 911Rob

You're living the dream Joe! Cheers.

do what makes you happy

I can't relate on any level fwiw.

Yes and no, and for me the dream does not include getting saddled with child support payments until I die.

Believe that I will hold off. Unless I find someone I am ready to marry and live with that this is not a smart decision...

widgeon13 · 12-14-2009, 05:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Joeaksa

Yes and no, and for me the dream does not include getting saddled with child support payments until I die.

Believe that I will hold off. Unless I find someone I am ready to marry and live with that this is not a smart decision...

Joe, that sounds like a good call. Hope you didn't ask this questions of the guys in the hangar?? That would have been very interesting.

Joeaksa · 12-14-2009, 05:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Laneco

Well let's take a look at another side of this...

Successful professional woman (pilot) already a single parent (knows the "score") apparently financially able. Been in a relationship with a really neat but decidedly older guy.

Not to be unflattering, but did it ever occur to you that she doesn't consider you marriage material? That with all of your virtues (and I believe you have plethora of them) the realistic side is that you are too old to raise a child and she is perfectly capable both emotionally and financially of doing this herself.

I'm sorry for saying such a cruel thing, but the fact is, she's smart. She knows that you'll be in your 70's when the child is a teenager. Yes, there are exceptions to the rule but in general, this is NOT a good thing.

edit: - also the sperm donor thing - no way... You are not a walk-away kind of guy.

angela

Thanks and agree with much of your above comment. Frankly after being divorced for almost 10 years, and being as old as I am, even getting married again, not to mention having a child, would be a massive change in my life.

Still leaning that this is not a good thing to happen... but appreciate the insight.

Jagshund · 05-18-2010, 04:24 PM

How is it I just found this thread? And during a search for movie lines? I'm guessing there aren't any little Pelicans on their way?

Joeaksa · 05-18-2010, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by 1968Cayman

How is it I just found this thread? And during a search for movie lines? I'm guessing there aren't any little Pelicans on their way?

Not in my hangar!

sammyg2 · 05-18-2010, 04:50 PM

Doan do it.
Iffn she has a kid from your "donation", you can still be on the hook for child support.

TSNAPCRACKLEPOP · TSNAPCRACKLEPOP's Garage

if you do not do it, where will you be in 10 years?

you know, it would not be the worst thing that has ever happened to you. If i were you, i would!!

Hard-Deck · 05-19-2010, 05:15 PM

Do NOT do it....'nuff said.

M.D. Holloway · 05-19-2010, 09:32 PM

any more peach cobbler?

Joeaksa · 05-19-2010, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by LubeMaster77

any more peach cobbler?

Nope, cut it off cold. Only way for me to do it and have not seen her since. If she lived in the area it might be different but not 1000 miles away.

targa911S · 05-20-2010, 05:09 AM

yer thinkin' with the wrong head buddy. get the blood flowing to the right organ.

Joeaksa · 05-20-2010, 05:59 AM

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Originally Posted by targa911S

yer thinkin' with the wrong head buddy. get the blood flowing to the right organ.

Already did, the pants are zipped up and not using the lower head anymore.

targa911S · 05-20-2010, 06:06 AM

good. why even risk the chance that some day it would come back to haunt you.

sc_rufctr · 05-20-2010, 06:17 AM

Just read the whole thread...

Something similar happened to me years ago. I was married at the time so it was a bit more complicated.
A lesbian couple I knew approached me about donating sperm so they could have a child.
I didn't say no straight away. I was too shocked for that. Instead I went home and told my then wife about it.
Can you imagine what she said? Anyway the final decision was NO for a lot of reasons besides them being Lesbians.

OK> Fast forward 12 years. I'm divorced and raising my three kids on my own. Work full-time and turned 45 in February.
My girls are 20 and 21 and my son is 14.

Funny thing is a little part of me I regrets not doing it. I can't fully explain it but that's how I feel.

I hope you don't regret your decision.